Additionally, they are inconsistent. With some, they are quick to cut them off without a fair hearing. Others, usually single men with no prospects, they are reluctant to let them go. They harass, hound, and have the potential to physically force and drag people back in. They have also been known to threaten to ruin people by committing serious crimes if they leave.
Besides that, they make life miserable for those in. Again, they are inconsistent in how they do that. Singles are set up to remain single for life. Married people are stagnated, often with the result that someone is going to commit adultery or become abusive. Often they set things up behind the victim's back so they will not be accepted. And then they wonder why they start blowing off the boasting sessions and skipping field circus, putting Zero Dollar Bills and Void Checks in the contribution box (or nothing), and ultimately setting up apostate web sites.