by Erichhhhhhhhh 34 Replies latest jw experiences
dude...... BE GLAD..
if you would have continued to be WITH her then she woulda been cheating on you instead of just screwing up her own personal life. you guys are NOT together............ be glad. dont feel sorry for her and try to remain friends........ MOVE ON and find a girl thats in the right place to actually be in a relationship with you.
you honestly dont know how good you have it right now.
It's tough but be happy you found out now and after having children. There are a million more wonderful women out there. Grieve you loss and move on best you can. And stay away from the Witnesses!!!
Bryan
Hi Erichhhhhhhh i hate to say this, but it looks as though this girl is using her religion as an excuse to break up. Chicken sh*% of her. Move on at a very fast pace. I was once a JW chick and we are screwed up.
Good Luck
Momzcrazy
Yes, I did break up with her because she wasn't happy. She didn't want to break up with me but I asked her is this what she wanted truely? And she agreed. I feel betrayed because I did that for her and she just ignored it and stopped following her religion all together, like why did we even break up then? you know?
And now I feel obligated to "fix" her. I don't know why.
I didn't abandon her, I am now her best friend and was always there for her.
And now I feel obligated to "fix" her. I don't know why.
1) You cannot fix her. You cannot fix anybody. Whether she is broken or not. 2) It's because you care for her; and because you care for her, you can choose to be there for her - but, see 1, above. I would suggest that you are in a very difficult position. You may be in love with her, but she is probably either not in love with you or is not ready to have an ongoing intimate relationship. It is very difficult to be "just friends" with someone you are in love with. The fact that she became sexually active in the way that she did tells me that she needed freedom from her family, from her religion, and from the ties of an ongoing relationship - as others have said, her faith has been very restrictive of her even allowing herself to acknowledge sexual feelings, and this can lead to the "floodgates opening" like this. I understand your feelings of betrayal, but I would suggest they may be a little misplaced. It doesn't really matter why you broke up with her, it looks like you were not "a couple" when this happened. From what little we can see here, I would say she is not ready for the intimacy of an ongoing sexual relationship. You get to ask herself, then, if you are willing to have a "friendship" while she continues to grow - while you both continue to grow.
And now I feel obligated to "fix" her. I don't know why.
Huh? You can't fix another human being. Her sex life is her business. When, why, how and with whom to have sex or give up her virginity is her choice not yours or anyone else's.
If you want to be friends with her then be her friend. But trying to fix anyone is just wrong. If you were my son, I tell him to get the hell away from anyone who is a JW.
nj
Hey Erich, I know what your saying, but the fact is you guys broke up. I am going to say this rudely and slowly...GET.....OVER....IT. Stop being her friend. Trust us it's for the best.
Dude, go find yourself a "new car", and stop berating yourself over a lemon...
