oh Erich, as everyone has said, you broke up with her. It was cruel and tacky to tell you all those details, but the truth is it's her life and not any of your business. You move on and find someone else. You can't stay friends with her after this, it won't work. Cut your losses. As for those of you calling her a whore, well, you don't know the circumstances. I was raised a JW girl. Not only is discussion of sex prohibited, or limited to the most unrealistic comments, no one tells JW girls how to handle themselves on their own. First time they go out and drink on their own, they can wind up getting screwed. Then, as someone else said, guilt sets in and they figure may as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb. That doesn't mean they will keep living like that. I didn't, lots of people I know didn't either.
really need some help please
by Erichhhhhhhhh 34 Replies latest jw experiences
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wanderlustguy
You have to move on, you have no idea what a blessing this is for you, dude.
Stick around a read a bit and you might get an idea.
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Cheetos
Wow friend don't you know there are a lot of fish in the pond move on this gal sounds like slut to me. We all have done nasty things in our life, one thing I have learned about women is this: They lie a lot! If you can laugh a lot together then that is a real good start, in the meantime just rely on Rosy Palm and her five sisters until you replace this wench cause she is treating you like smoke change, remember the fastest way to get over one women is to find another.
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B_Deserter
When you broke up with her, you relinquished all expectation that she wouldn't have sex with someone else. It may sound harsh, but, you're not her boyfriend anymore. She didn't do anything wrong and she didn't do anything to you. If you didn't really want to break up, then you shouldn't have done it. You want to have your cake and eat it too, expecting her to sit around and remain celibate even after the relationship with you is over. It doesn't work that way.
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GoddessRachel
I agree with what Unique1 says here:
Honestly, I know TONS of JW girls that did this. They would wait, then mess up and go all the way once and turn into a free for all buffet. It is because they are taught to never speak of sex, to never think of it, to never ever let it tempt you so when they do finally have sex they usually feel bad and dirty, like they let God down. After a day or two of feeling guilt, they usually turn and say well God is already mad at me, I am going to die at Armageddon anyway, might as well have fun doing it and they screw any decent looking guy to come around. Admittedly this reasoning is faulty but they are brainwashed.
I was once a JW girl and believe me, we have no self respect as JW women, we are taught not to, and add no self esteem to the massive sexual repression and this is what happened to your girl. The fact that you have already broken up means you are on the right track.
I know it hurts, but be her friend if you are able, if it is too hard because you are so in love with her, cut the relationship off completely.
This little girl has to grow up all by herself and not you or anybody can help her do it faster. You can,however, slow down the progress by trying to fix her and/or trying to be her boyfriend. Only she can grow up. You can't grow up for her. And she's clearly not ready for any kind of boyfriend. She is confused, poor thing. I grieve for both you, as the JW's have messed up something else that could have been lovely otherwise.
Sorry to be so brutal, Friend. Like others have said, stick around this board and read; you'll know soon enough why so many are saying stay away from JW's.
Rachel