by 4mylove 39 Replies latest jw experiences
Carla,
Thanks so much! I completely understand. I spoke to a friend that was raised then left yesterday and he shed some light on being raised by a catholic father and a jw mother. We laughed and compared stories of what I'm going through and what he experienced actually being a part of it.
Thanks to all for your kind words!
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I hate that this is your reality....I've already lost my family and know where you're coing from... good luck
Dear 4,
Thinking of you and your husband.
As I'm sure you do, keep showing him how much you love him because of who he is - not because you're supposed to according to any rule book. You can't make people change their beliefs, but doing your best day by day will only help him. My/our situation wasn't the same, but I can say that love motivated thorough research and awakening.
Love,
Eyes
4mylove,
I think Carla said it best. Love him, pray for him, but get on with your life. You cannot control how he is, only you.
Go out and make friends, volunteer, have fun. If you believe in God, trust Him. Give ths problem to Him and let Him deal with it.
Since you cannot do anything about it, do not let it eat you up.
I have a prayer on my wall it says: God give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can and
The wisdom to know the difference.
This advice has done well by me. Some things are beyond our ability to change and we just have to let it go.
My heart goes out to you. I used to live in fear too. It hurts.
Love and hugs,
Velta
still_in74:
you're really one clone of me. my wife wants a baby too... i would want too... if this cult wouldnt be. i cant do this while one of us is in. and she literally tells me that she would raise them in the faith.
on the other hand shes scared she may gets old, too old, without kids. and this leads to the fear that she may leave me, since the urge to have a child can be strong.
solution? not yet to be found. i dont wanna leave her.
As I stand now, I would never consider bringing new humans into a conflict psychology. Unless you both think and feel along the same lines it is guaranteed to feed conflict and/or distance to a childs experience of life for as long as you're together.
Just my view with plenty of regreteable experiences.
Freeme,
I'm so sorry and as you know, I know exactly how you feel, hang in there. We'll all be okay one day.
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Eyesopen, and Eliveleth,
Thanks so much for your kind words. It's for this that I keep coming back to this board.
4
Wow, this is all really hitting close to home. I'm scared too. I'm scared because the man I love, loves Jah more than me. I don't know if this will help you, but I try to remind myself everyday to love myself. Love yourself. Remember that you have value and have a right to happiness.
I'm sorry you feel this was. It stinks. let yourself feel and write and talk about it. when you are done, when you have gotton it all out of you... just love.
