by isnrblog 22 Replies latest jw friends
My family does not speak to me. I have no problem with that as they are pains in the ass.
But during my tenure as a JW, I noticed that differant families would treat their DF'd members differantly, even if they didn't live in the same household, often inviting them over for dinner, etc.
Seems inconsistant.
What have you guys seen?
I didn't click on this thread for a while because of the title.
Now I catch your drift.
Yes, the way JWs treat DFed relatives is all over the map.
I didn't speak to my long-time DFed brother for many, many years. Then about a year ago the dam of human kindness, brotherly love, etc broke.
Now I associate with and share meals with the spawn of Satan as often as circumstances permit. Hasn't bothered my digestion or sleep patterns one bit.
Almost got busted by the Gestapo this last time tho. Gotta be more careful.
OM
I receive very varied reception. The majority of Aussie JWs either ignore me or just greet me, but some active Aussie JWs still socialise with me, invite me over etc, like nothing happened, but always cautious that no one finds out.
My wife is a Philipino and the Philipino JWs in Sydney seem a lot more relaxed about disfellowshipping. At the meetings many still speak to disfellowshipped people, and most still talk to me. I don't get invited to Philipino parties. but am still invited in for coffee etc.
Yes, because disfellowshipping is an unfair rule dealt out on familes who have broken hearts and consciences, and who try to do what "Jehovah wants" which is supposedly cutting off and shunning their own family, but this hurts a lot so families will deal with it however they are able to. It's completely inconsistent because it's completely unnatural.
I used to be bitter when I saw families associating with their disfellowshipped family member. That was when I was a Witness. Now I'm so glad for anybody and everybody who can see beyond the crap and treat their family the way they are naturally inclined to. Of course, I am biased, because I'm on the receiving end of family shunning due to leaving the religion.
Rachel
I noticed this inconsistency a lot and was told that the JW's who still associate with DF'd family shouldn't be. That was it!
Maddie
Yes, I agree. Especially with Goddess Rachel . It is an unnatural thing to do , it is not normal human behavior to shun people you love. But as some posters said- it is all over the map . Some people shun their DFed family, some treat them normally. It shows what a BS man made rule it is
Oh don't get me started on this, religion should NEVER EVER get in the way of family. Ever.
The inconsistency is that people can't turn their backs on their blood, their bonds, just because of a mistake in their life or a difference in ideology, it's totally unnatural.
The few family members that don't associate with me now, are ones I wasn't close to anyway, so it's not missed.
when i was df-ed...i had no association with anyone...no friends , family, elders...as per my and their understanding of org procedure based on bible principles.
the adult girl that i was involved with continued to associate with family, (including doing secular work together - something my family decided was unnecessary association with me altho my mental state meant i could not work alone) got texts and phone calls from friends frequently, and elders often enquired concerningly of her at the meetings and on the phone.
the result..she was reinstated within 5 months (altho she was not a strong believer) and to my knowledge continues to this day.
i was refused reinstatement for a year and a half as a result of which i lost all my faith in a loving god, lost all my friends, strained relationships with my family continue to this day, no desire to fix my marraige, lost all my work, had a complete nervous breakdown, bankruptcy imminent, and no longer an attendee...
gotta love the irony
Wow, tijkmo, what I can say is something my dad would always tell me, when you are at the bottom, there is only one way you can go.
I would thumb my nose at the world, become like Caine in Kung Fu and walk the earth and transform myself into whomever I wanted. Come back in ten years and laugh in their faces.
yes the same inconsistency and hypocrisy
