Have you noticed that disfellowshipped Witnesses are treated differantly?

by isnrblog 22 Replies latest jw friends

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  ShirleyW

  I remember about twenty plus years ago, a family that we were close to, there youngest daughter was disfellowshipped but still living at home, I think the dad had already passed away by this time, and I remember her mother telling mine (that good ol' JW gossip !) that one of the brothers told her that they shouldn't even sit at the same table for the evening meal, mother, thinking this was too harsh a treatment went to the others elders and was told basically "well, you can't eat with her, but no "in depth convesations otherwise",

  Sad to believe that at one time or another we all would've eaten up that bullshit stated above. . . .and how sad it is to think that a mother in her despair ate it up as the "gospel truth" !!
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  tijkmo

  when you are at the bottom, there is only one way you can go.

  well it could be worse...i could have lost my sense of humour/humor

  so layla anytime you wanna give me a helping hand.. i won't struggle
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  GoddessRachel

  when i was df-ed...i had no association with anyone...no friends , family, elders...as per my and their understanding of org procedure based on bible principles.

  the result..she was reinstated within 5 months (altho she was not a strong believer) and to my knowledge continues to this day.

  i was refused reinstatement for a year and a half as a result of which i lost all my faith in a loving god, lost all my friends, strained relationships with my family continue to this day, no desire to fix my marraige, lost all my work, had a complete nervous breakdown, bankruptcy imminent, and no longer an attendee...

  gotta love the irony

  TIJKMO, I know it didn't feel like it at the time (I know because I went through COMPLETE isolation too, and I'm still messed up socially to this day) but they actually did you a favor! You were able to wake up from the lie! If you had been reinstated as quickly as the girl was maybe you'd still be a Witness today! *Gasp!* Rachel
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  tijkmo

  If you had been reinstated as quickly as the girl was maybe you'd still be a Witness today!

  oh there is no doubt...and i know what you are saying and i appreciate your sentiments.

  truth is tho that i loved it...and i would rather have never found out it wasn't true.

  and there are times now when i consider going back...and every time i do i remember that if anyone knows for sure the detrimental effect that df-ing has on genuinely sorry imperfect people then it is jehovah...so he cannot possibly be directing an organization that treats people so inhumanely.

  and if jws are wrong..then obviously i don't want to know them

  and if they are right then i don't wanna know jehovah

  t.i.j.k.m.o.
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  Layla33

  Tijkmo, you have nothing to worry about, the JWs are not right.
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  WTWizard

  This is further proof that the religion is disjointed and anything but unified. What happens to one person will not even be possible for the next within this religion.
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  isnrblog

  I second what Layla says.

  I am completely shunned but It really doesn't bother me. I realized that I had to be true to myself.

  They can only hurt you if you let them.

  Wishing you the best, my friend.

  www.isnrblog.com
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  new light

  Yes, I was completely shunned while df'ed. No surprise there as that is the nature of "disfellowship". What got me was how I seemed to be permanently marked somehow. I humbly crawled back into the religion, accepting everything they said and jumping through all the hoops happily, really fervently believing the whole thing. But I was never fully, fully accepted into the inner circle again. I was that wierdo that had been disfellowshipped, never as worthy as the others. Very peeving at the time.
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  MissingLink

  My sister was DF and I shunned her for 17 years (as I was supposed to) before I woke up. We now have a good relationship. She told me that it bothered her that I shunned her since my parents didn't (dad's an elder). My parents hid from me that they were not shunning her. And her DF friends all have great relationships with their entire families. She thought it was just me being an ass. She didn't even realize that I was the only person that she knew who was actually following the rules.

  Dad says he totally disagrees with this teaching, and technically he should step down because if he gets caught he'll be removed. But he's not prepared to do that because "there's just so much work to be done".
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  Country Girl

  "Having no natural affection."

  This scripture always struck me as something very significant. The Witnesses use that in their standard philosophy, but they don't understand that shunning is holding back of natural affection, which Jesus would not tolerate.

  CG