Have you noticed that disfellowshipped Witnesses are treated differantly?

by isnrblog 22 Replies latest jw friends

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  journey-on

  Shunning is a despicable practice. Some that still have an independent brain cell recognize this. My mother was one of those.

  My brothers were disfellowshipped. When it initially happened, she went by the "rules". But, it did not feel scriptural nor natural to her

  to do this. She prayed about it, and soon ceased this horridly wicked ungodly practice, and stated that Jehovah did not expect a mother

  to do that to her own flesh and blood. After that, she never ever shunned her sons again. I'm faded. My sister shunned me for several years

  after determining I had no intention of returning to the flock. One day, out of the blue, she wrote me a letter and wanted to have a relationship again. No

  explanation or anything! We are still not as close as we should be, but we do have something. I've never been disfellowshipped, so she

  chooses to speak to me, but not my brothers. But, I always get the feeling that any day now, I will get another letter telling me that once again

  she must shut me out because of "new light" or something. This cult truly does destroy family relationships. But that is the way of a cult. It

  enables them to have more control over your mind and your life.
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  buffalosrfree

  Depends on which may a particular family uses in how they will treat DF'd ones. But the shunning shouldn't surpirse anyone, afterall, the society tries to instill the idea of killing your loved ones if they are in need of a blood transfusion. The HLC goons at the hospitals are there to ensure Jdubs get killed if necessary. Now what can you say about a religion/org/borg that trains its adherents to kill their loved ones???
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  GoddessRachel

  Yes, I was completely shunned while df'ed. No surprise there as that is the nature of "disfellowship". What got me was how I seemed to be permanently marked somehow. I humbly crawled back into the religion, accepting everything they said and jumping through all the hoops happily, really fervently believing the whole thing. But I was never fully, fully accepted into the inner circle again. I was that wierdo that had been disfellowshipped, never as worthy as the others. Very peeving at the time.

  This is what happened to me as well. You are never good enough once you have been stupid enough to have to be "disciplined." No matter what you do.

  I also liked Country Girl's point about the scripture in Timothy they use all the time to show how we are in the time of the end, because of "no natural affection", when it turns out that the JW's are the most guilty of this!

  Rachel