fortunately i had friends in the music scene and i've built friends in the other arts scenes that interest me.
oh, b/c i went to them thar bad concerts by sneaking to them.....thank god for petit rebellion from a teenager.
this will sound very tony robbins, but we all have a purpose, something that will drive us from our core and that we will stop at nothing to continue to attain....for some people it's music....others it's playing poker, whatever. finding out what a person is passionate about, then working towards getting involved, even if it's being a volunteer photographer's assistant to be engaged with what you love....
the whole social structure of the jws is 'we all love jehovah', unfortunately they don't know on a cognitive level that it's, 'we will comply with teh wtbts no matter what', but it's still a social structure of other humans with similar interests....something they're passionate about, or faking being passionate about.
we're fortunate to be able to explore what drives us. what will you continue doing even if you were 95 and it hurt like hell to get up every morning to do it, but you couldn't not do it.
and here's where i quote a passage from Baudelaire that means a lot to me:
One should always be drunk. That's all that matters
that's our one imperative need. So as not to feel Time's
horrible burden one which breaks your shoulders and bows
you down, you must get drunk without cease.
But with what?
With wine, poetry, or virtue
as you choose.
But get drunk.
And if, at some time, on steps of a palace,
in the green grass of a ditch,
in the bleak solitude of your room,
you are waking and the drunkenness has already abated,
ask the wind, the wave, the stars, the clock,
all that which flees,
all that which groans,
all that which rolls,
all that which sings,
all that which speaks,
ask them, what time it is;
and the wind, the wave, the stars, the birds, and the clock,
they will all reply:
"It is time to get drunk!
So that you may not be the martyred slaves of Time,
get drunk, get drunk,
and never pause for rest!
With wine, poetry, or virtue,
as you choose!"
it's translated from french and some have intepreted it as 'get high', but the gist is still there.