wow - i'm not speechless, but it hits close to home.
similer things happened to me. my husband was the first to come to grips with wanting to leave and once he did, never looked back. it was much harder for me - i knew how my heart felt, but had doubts if wbts was right or wrong. for awhile i just didn't want to deal with it, especially with our familiy and "friends".
when my husband stopped going for good - and the first district convention he missed - my so-called friends starting treating me like a leper. it was hurtful and disaapointing. but it was the first step in becoming angry and seeing how the organization was. maybe when your wife's friend starts treating her different, as well as others at the hall - it will be a first step to want to get out as well.
it took me many years to come to know my own beliefs and feelings. and to say that i no longer want to be part of it - and it has little to do with the fact that imperfect people can sometimes be mean (which is what my family wants to think).
anyways - hang in there. baby steps. just keep the communication up with your wife - she will get to where she needs to be in her own time and space. its not easy to grasp that everything you were taught and new, are based on untruth and very fickle people.