How long did it take...

by Honesty 23 Replies latest jw friends

  • sacolton
    sacolton

    When I stepped into the Kingdom Hall, I was what they wanted me to be. When I got home, I was myself again. Simple.

  • Mickey mouse
    Mickey mouse
    How do you get back to normal when you were raised a witness?

    This is the question for me too. All the same, I recognise that I have the dual personality referred to by Steve Hassan in Combatting Cult Mind Control and so do all of my siblings, raised in.

  • Mickey mouse
    Mickey mouse

    Forgot to say that I spoke to an ex JW recently who told me "you will never know who you truly are until you are out".

  • Quirky1
    Quirky1

    Not long....maybe a week or so, if that.

  • White Dove
    White Dove

    Same as Wha happened. The struggle in being a conservative, self-denying X-ian just took it's toll. I couldn't keep doing it. It would surface many times from kidhood through adulthood. Just couldn't be that good and conforming all the time. Now, I can't bear a second of conforming to anyone else's mould.

  • Tired of the Hypocrisy
    Tired of the Hypocrisy

    As hard as I tried to shed my old personality and put on the armor of the cult, I never really succeeded in getting that done. I have always been trying to do better with my foul mouth, my inability to shut up when I see wrongs being committed, and my porn addiction. I would avoid praying as best I could at the hall and for gatherings, and turned down a few posts. Mainly because I felt like doing so would make me the horror of horrors....a hypocrite.

    It has taken no time at all for me to return to my same old self! LOL

  • Hope4Others
    Hope4Others

    The New Personality hmmm,

    Personally I feel my personality is better now than it ever could of been for the past 25 years,

    I feel alive, real, and I really do care for people and for how and what they feel.

    Cheers

    hope4others

  • CandleLight
    CandleLight

    I never really received my new personality until I was leaving.

    I think I know how you mean it, and really that arrogant, fake, condensending 'new personality' I had been conditioned to have, fell away rather quickly considering the exposure to it my whole life.

    I am now a real person, with real love to express, and real concern.

    Praise God for freedom

    CL

  • garybuss
    garybuss

    I never had a "normal", I was raised as a Witness. All I knew was the Witness culture, it was my core beliefs. All I've been able to do is get an education and try not to make the same mistakes again. I'm a work in progress.



  • Casper
    Casper

    Coming out of the world to become a witness, I tried really had to put on that "New Personality", never quite fit tho.

    When I finally realized I was out and NEVER going back, it took about 15 min. of intense personal thought about the situation, and then I was "FREE"... I was elated... to say the least.

    Cas

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