Graduation and elders meeting! (page 5)

why???

Thanks everyone for the feedback. On The way Out- glad you think i did well, usually you're pretty cynical, but i just followed you're advice...now i just need to prolong or indefinitely post-pone this next meeting. My graduation is tommorrow-well today technically! and I'm still not sure if my parents are coming, my sis probably will and my boyfriend said if they don't show he'll take me out to dinner afterward. At this point I don't care much anymore. My dad did say he was proud of me but sad but I'll always be his daughter which is a good sign(i was always his favorite ;-) Do you all think that getting married first then telling the elders later if at all is the best? I think I'll tell my parents only if they promise not to rat me out again before the wedding. Anyways much love to everyone here.

sparrow

I'd like to discuss pornea with the elders. I like pornea...

lrkr

Dont let the borg F**k up your wedding. Tell your parents that you love your boyfriend and want them to be a part of your wedding. Its not a sin. The worst the elders will do is try and mark you. (Oh- and they may threaten to take away "priviledges" of anyone involved.) Try and get your parents to see the need to leave the elders out of such a personal and important part of any family's life. (Don't give the elders any warning)

jehovahsheep

they can not df you if there is no fornication or uncleaness.you just wont be able to pioneer or go to bethel.the fact is that you are showing respect for gods arrangement by getting married.

Superfine Apostate

there's absolutely no need to ever talk to the elders. postponing a meeting is fairly easy. blacklist all the elders' phone numbers and if they still get to you, tell them you are too busy with graduation/wedding preparations/whatever right now and you'd call them when you need them (i told them so a while ago, haven't heard from them since).

OnTheWayOut

On The way Out- glad you think i did well, usually you're pretty cynical,

But I take giving advice seriously. I give it thought. I read a profile and other threads
by a person before I give life-effecting advice on decisions they face. This is some
serious sh^t we are dealing with.

Do you all think that getting married first then telling the elders later if at all is the best? I think I'll tell my parents only if they promise not to rat me out again before the wedding. Anyways much love to everyone here.

It's your life. Being engaged and getting married are not sins. They are not secrets
either. Tell your folks whenever you are ready. Avoid the elders as stated in previous
threads. Let them hear it from your folks. Don't worry about them "ratting" you out.
Marriage is a GOOD thing. Just don't say anything about any pre-marital issues.

mary stewart

Congrats on graduating and the marriage! I assume yer still a dub? I say it's better to be with yer fiance than with the WTBS! I was DFed and I feel better. It might be hard on yer folks, but maybe they'll understand that love is more important than the elders. I say screw the society and leave em behind.

why???

I went to graduation today and my parents never showed up!!!!!!

OnTheWayOut

Well that's so sad, Why??. I would say to try to be understanding if they
didn't show up at your wedding because they are victims of a mind-control cult.
They would be thinking it shows approval of your bonds to a "worldly" guy.

But a graduation- that's a bit harder to overlook. It's definitely not evil.
So many dubs go to higher learning, it's okay to approve.

Strength and peace to you. My opinion- Just leave a door of communication open
to them, but keep moving on with your life.

why???

Thanks-thats my plan.

Graduation and elders meeting!

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