The hounders are once again up my arse... As of like, 2 minutes ago...

by cognac 27 Replies latest jw friends

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  cognac

  They told my husband they wanted to meet... TONIGHT...

  Just what I want to do on a Friday night... We just had a sheparding call a month ago with another elder. I said to my husband, "Why don't they just invite the entire body over to the house?"

  I just said no. So hubby told them that. They wanted to schedule something for another day cause I'm missing to many meetings. He told them he didn't know when I would want to meet.

  Good lord, nothing is enough with them. And NO, I will not meet with them. Enough is enough...

  I'm calling the PO to get them to back off. I don't need them up my arse like this.
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  trevor

  Sounds most uncomfortable!
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  95stormfront

  Stand your ground. If they show up unnannounced anyway, politely excuse yourself from the room and leave them and your husband standing there with their mouths gaped open. They have no control over you.....the only control they have is what people give them. YOu don't have to answer their questions and you don't have to listen to their attempts to browbeat you on the downlow.
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  OnTheWayOut

  Even though they are warped in what they are trying to do, try to
  look at it from a different perspective. Many elders ignore the person
  (as mine have done) and don't try to help him/her for various reasons.

  Your elders are up your arse but they have not tried to force a JC on
  you.

  Still, tell them NO strongly if need be, but at least feel grateful that
  people care about you.

  Tell them how you are only supposed to take your meds as needed
  and their constant pressure to meet is forcing you to take meds.
  It changes your mood, costs you money, is unwelcome.
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  undercover

  Remember...they only have as much authority as you allow them to have.

  If you don't want to meet with them, then don't...and there ain't a damn thing they can do about it.
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  worf

  Thats right. Continue to stand your ground and don't meet with them.

  As posted above, you are in control. Don't give any control to them.

  They may get pissed off, but so what.

  "F" em.

  Worf
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  cognac

  Thanks guys!

  You know, maybe I'm looking at this from the wrong direction... Last time hubby met with this one elder he didn't even want to go back to the meetings... Maybe I should meet with them??? lol, one of them has this really great way of stumbling my husband, lol...
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  White Dove

  I've thought about it several times and always come up with the same thing. I will never never never never meet with them for any reason whatsoever. I believe that them meeting with me is to figure out if a JC is necessary and if I was married to a believer, to see what can be done to make the hubby qualify for priviledges. With a wife that is fading, a hubby won't qualify. They may want your hubby's services and need you to fly right. They don't care, no matter what people say or think. The elders that do care are in the small minority, and that's a fact. It's a Kingdom Hall Politics with them.
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  changeling

  I would not meet with them either. But be careful how you turn them down. Keep it casual.

  The last time an elder asked if he could come over and "talk" (before I quit all meeting attendance), I gave him a pained look and said: "It hurts too much to talk about it, so I'd rather not". They've not bothered us since.

  changeling :)
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  95stormfront

  The last time I had a meeting with the elders it was presented to me by my wife as if they were coming over to talk to her. But when they hit they door, it was me they wanted to have a discussion with. My wife conveniently found other things to do in the house while they were there. They thought they were going to corner me with the story of Noah, how it was only his family that survived, and as such parallel it with themselves and how I should get back to meetings and service within the organization.....some crap they were regurgitating from their recent district convention in 2006. I made it clear to them that we could discuss the bible all day long, but that if they were there to cast veiled accusations, guilt, or probe and parallel for something "wrong" with me, that we were not "going there".