by New light for you 51 Replies latest jw experiences
Hey, it might be kind of cool to start off the meeting with your wife declaring your headship and walking out, you share your bit, and then she can come back in at the end to say,
"And by the way, I am in complete agreement with my husband. And furthermore, I am horrified that after my many years of faithful service, the so-called friends are ready give up on me completely. Where is the Christian love? You can go now."
Use "caller ID" on your phone and don't answer the door when they come. "Disconnect" from them, or should I say diassociate, disfellowship the elders.
That will give you time to make up your mind. People here say they won't quit hounding you. I get phone calls from telemarketers
and such, and I let the voicemail answer. And I look out the window before I answer the door. You don't owe them anything.
I guess my main question in all of this is how many family members do you stand to lose, and how close are you to them?
If neither of you have family in the borg, then why go through all the trouble of fading?
Even if you succesfully fade, someone somewhere sometime will catch you living a "normal" life and it is only a matter of time before you both start enjoying a normal life (voting, holidays, etc etc etc)..
Junction-guy, exactly! We only have 2 parents, who will at least talk to us. So we have little to lose. And NewLight and I have discussed how if we do fade, we'll eventually get caught, and will have a certain amount of stress always worrying about it. So I go back and forth with fade/DA, and I'm now leaning more on the DA side.
You guys are just so HOT! with APOSTATE IDEAS IT TURNS ME ON!!!Hey! I saw that!
(dont tell Robert7)
Bwahahahahaha!!!!!!!!! lol, too funny... I was waiting for that, lol
I wouldn't want my good name to be associated with a gaggle of fools, I think Robert's right, make this meeting a place where you can state the reasons why you are certain the FADFS is full of baloney, and then clear your good name from this group of fools... you'll be free once and for all, and I promise, it'll make you so happy that you let them know they have no power over you.
When they leave your home, they'll usually say something to the effect of you surviving Armageddon and the like, tell them you don't serve a man made organization like they do and you have nothing to fear from your loving creator.
The more you can blow off their meetings, the better. Hopefully that causes at least some wasted gas and time on their parts.
Hey darlin! My husband had an elder over to talk about our "issues" against my better judgement as well. I was terrified. However, we kept the tone light and did not go into how deepley we felt the WT was false. We stuck to our known issues (the UN involvement and the letter we wrote the Society and their silly response). We played the "we are hurt" card, and left it at that.
At the time we were still attending meetings and the elder approched me a few weeks later and asked if we could meet again. I gave him a pained expression and said: "I appreciate the offer, but it just hurts too much to talk about these things..." Within a month or so we quit going to meetings all together. My parents who live with us (Dad's an elder) get picked up by "friends" for thier meetings. No one has bothered us in over a year.
Play you cards right and all we be well. Trust me.
changeling :)
You guys need to do what's right for both of you, not one, or the other, both. Try to agree on how to handle this together and present a united front. Having faded myself, but being very liberal in speaking my mind to family and friends, should the day ever come that elders wanted to meet with me, I would tell them to kiss something......and that I do not need to play into their little power game or rules and leave it at that. I'd never sit down with elders over anything ever again in my life, I left that behind gladly and would never submit to it again. But that's me, you guys do what is best for you both. Good luck with it! Hugs.
So play the phony and just go through the meeting or write a letter that says your done. Other than that expect to go through hell with them.
That sums it up right there. But what you must not do is give them the upper hand and let them control you.
