I'm just trying to get all of these facts and my emotions in some sort of order. It's overwhelming but yet I am not bitter and have no desire to bash or bad mouth them. Not all of my upbringing or experiences were bad .
It is important that you get all of the facts and your emotions in some sort of order. Being that you were df'd and went through the process of being reinstated, I don't think you are as unscathed as you think are. I was out for 13 years before I started to deal with some of the nastiness I experienced at the hands of the WTB&TS. Had it not been for the Bill Bowen/Barbara Anderson interview on Dateline, I would've continued to blame myself for what happened to me.
When it really starts to hit you, please be assured that we are all here for you. Thankfully your husband is out and supportive of you. You will also find JWD to be quite a good source for an education about the history and ongoing abuses of the WTB&TS. Welcome!