People who are control freaks are that way because they are terrified that if they STOP controlling everything, everything will crumble around them. So as long as they keep saying it like a mantra....then in their minds it remains true....but if they were to stop and say, "This is in Gods hands...and I will live my life in service to him and enjoy my life and my family which are the gifts He gave me" then the end wont be IMMINENT and they wont have that urgency any more that the Societys very existence depends on them having.
Remove the urgency...remove the reason for being a JW.