Didn't have much money...everyone wanted to come, so I reluctantly invited many. We had lots of good food and nice bottles of wine, white and red. So it cost a bit to set up....my soon to be wife said: "Don't worry, your a Pioneer, I'm sure the brothers will be generous with their gifts!" I had served there for a long time. I wasn't expecting much but at least some gift money would help. After the wedding I found most envelopes were empty or had $100 dollars from a family of 5 working people who came??!! I ended up getting afew hundred dollars from 120 people. Also when we left for our honeymoon and Witness guests began leaving, they grabbed whatever wine bottles and drinks were not opened to take home???!!!! My worldly relatives were shocked! It was all you can eat and drink...but not take home! After driving these people out Witnessing in my car for years, I did expect just alittle less selfishness.
My Pioneer Wedding =Didn't get much money/gifts from invited Brothers!
by Witness 007 30 Replies latest jw experiences
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OtisBarker
JW world, weird.
JW weddings, bad.
High expectations of JWs, bad.
Free food, good.
Otis
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WTWizard
Isn't it stealing when people take items home for later consumption, when that is not the intended action? The items were for people to enjoy while on the premises--and people taking them home prevented others from enjoying them on site at that event.
Perhaps the stinginess reflects the poverty of window washers and toilet scrubbers. They don't make much money (and they are urged to cut back further to pioneer). Or, maybe the money ends up in the Worldwide Pedophile Defense Fund.
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Witness 007
Sure have a good time but I didn't think they would carry stuff home...it was expensive!
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still_in74
when we left for our honeymoon and Witness guests began leaving, they grabbed whatever wine bottles and drinks were not opened to take home???!!!!
now i KNOW your telling the truth!!
Do all JW's everywhere do this???? I remember a relative getting a cheque for $30 from a well-to-do elder in our KH at his wedding. He and his wife had dinner and free drinks!
I even got a laundry basket full of crap that a bro got at his wedding and didnt want. ie: picture frames, light bulbs, etc. it was rediculous.
I for one always give cash now, and people always gasp when I tell them how much. maybe I just like to see peoples reactions. And I know the father of the bride always treats me extra special after. Consider this, a non-relative JW just gave your daughter more cash than her cheap chincy JW elder uncle. How would you feel?
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RR
We had a JW wedding, friends from five different congregations, about 500 attended. we walked away with less than $1,000.00, and most of it came from immediate worldy family. Some items we got were regifted. For example, we received a cheesy gift from a couple that they received as a wedding gift. How do we know? first of all they left the card they recived in the box, when they gave it to us.
Some of the gifts were sooo impractical for a marriage. For instance, we got a letter opener as a wedding gift.
RR
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Tired of the Hypocrisy
Isn't it stealing when people take items home for later consumption, when that is not the intended action?
Yes it is, but what can you do with a bunch of boorish jw's?
When I was married we invited 300 people. We simply had enough money to feed that many folks and to pay for the rec hall with a capacity of 300. Well, I invited family first then came friends then the jw's from the hall. My wife invited most everyone since her family is huge. Knowing that the rec hall did NOT allow alcohol and actually had two county-paid guards onsite to prtect their policy and assets I informed everyone that booze was unfortunately out.
The jw's brought booze and acted rediculous. The elder that performed the marriage ceremony felt that he had the right to invite 25 members of his own family to come. Everyone glutted on our food, danced their asses off, and pretty much enjoyed the night despite the guards having to escort two elders offsite for bringing booze in.
I had bought ten cases of Larry Mahan Salsa and we only used five of them. My brother who was best man was going to go load the gifts and the salsa and left-over sparkling cider into his truck when he saw one of the pioneers handing stuff out to the guests that were leaving. It was ok to let the food go, but sealed stuff is not fair game. My brother told him to drop everything and for everyone in sight to return his property. They actually got mad.....
There is not a bigger bunch of moochers and thieves than the jw's!
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wizardca
My sister got married and had a bridal shower. This one sister showed up and the gift was totally regifted. The bad part...it was lingerie (least the tags were still attached) but it was the wrong size for my sister, but the right size for the person giving the gift. So lame.
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Hope4Others
they grabbed whatever wine bottles and drinks were not opened to take home???!!!! My worldly relatives were shocked!
Im shocked too....that's definitely stealing what you paid for. . .witnesses can be so bad that way in giving useless stuff......
Money is better then the couple can use it as they see fit.
hope4others
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MinisterAmos
When my wife's couin from Mexico got married to the nephew of the local PO, we had to set her and her brides maids up (again) in our house for the two weeks prior to the wedding. Not a problem.
Of course the blushing bride and her family had SHUNNED my wife for more than 10 years because she faded, then immediately started sucking up when they needed something, still I entertained the idea of a reconciliation.
We never got an invitation until the week before the wedding when I asked the Groom if we were invited. He brought over a printed invite the next day (obviously done ahead of time and mailed out to everyone else)
We did not get invited to the post-reception party despite the fact that EVERYONE else in all the neighboring congoes was invited, and that the farking Bride and her best bud were staying in our house and the Groom was a fixture in my bar and fridge that whole time?
NEVER get a thank-you card for the (very) expensive gifts.
This was the fifth or sixth JW wedding I have attended and I have yet to get a TY card for my generous gifts. They are the worst mannered least compasionate group of people I have ever encountered.