My Pioneer Wedding =Didn't get much money/gifts from invited Brothers! (page 3)

RR

The best part was watching the wedding video and seeing all the JW's who didn't get invites, eating and drinking and dancing!

RR

I think spending money and food and booze for people who attend your wedding is a waste of money. Why not dress up in your best clothes, go get married, and go home and serve coffee and cake? What would be wrong with that. People have a strange sense of entitlement around weddings. As for JWs, well I've known some greedy tacky ones for sure. Just as greedy and tacky and low class as some people in the world, eh? Most of the traditions and expectations around wedding are completely unnecessary.

Casper

Witness,

Congratulations on your Marriage...

I'm sorry it got somewhat ruined. It's unbelievable how some people will act.

You know, now that I think back on it... Just where did all that food go, sure wasn't a bunch of leftovers in our frig when Hubby and I got back. Makes one wonder...

Cas

Witness 007

At a Engagement party three Sisters from the same family gave the hostess, a tin of Baked Beans {39 cents} and two plain candles {$1} they said it was for a Romantic dinner ha ha....they then drank wine ate and partied all night....I mean common $1;39 cents??? From 3 working people....It shows dis-respect to their friend.

New light for you

I think alot of the wedding depends on where you're from. Witnesses tend to not have too much money (no college) so not have quite as lavish weddings as normal in the area... is my take on it. WHEn i was in the midwest, my wedding was "normal" where we had it at a reception hall with the full-out served dinner, open bar, sweets tables, ice sculptures etc. but that's what almost everyone would do there.

We did have about 300 people (10years ago), the 150 worldly we got at least $100+ per couple, witnesses... $10, $20, some less, a FEW more, very few.

I was OK with it at the time, I didn't know half the worldly people (husbands side) so i felt like they paid for it, and then my friends got to come for free. I agree, you cant "expect" to make alot of money, just go into it not going into "hack" for the wedding, but to enjoy it yourself, anything you walk away with is a bonus.

I admit, there were a couple poor sisters i invited, because I grew up with them, loved them, and wanted them to come. They pooled their money into one card. It was so sweet, there were singles , a few 5's, whole thing was something odd like maybe $32 for 3-4 of them, but to me it was touching. it was honestly what they could give, i believe.

Now, here in the south, everyone just goes to a forest preserve and "brings a dish" and that's your reception.... i just dont know about that. I'm not a true southerner i guess,seems tacky for me... but to each his own. I dont know if i could have stomached "bring a dish" to my wedding.

Babylon the Great Employee

I'm also in the south, and one of the tackiest things ever is actually opening presents at the reception. It's not just a JW thing here, I've seen it done at Baptist weddings as well (really, when there's no alcohol, what else are you going to do?). But I guess that prevents people from giving you really crappy gifts/being cheap, since everyone else will see it too. You know JW's are all about appearances. </p>

I'm surprised there were JW weddings with alcohol though. I guess the south is just too conservative; even though JW's were allowed to drink, it was very discouraged to "get together" and drink in large crowds like weddings.

White Dove

You mentioned that you invited brothers but no mention of sisters. Next time invite a few sisters, as well. We tend to be more thoughtful. Oops, I'm not a sister anymore. Oh well.

Prov1320

I know of a couple of male dubs who come to your house, drinks your beer, and STUFFS HIS COAT POCKETS to take home whatever beer bottles remains.

I mean, what kind of twisted, ill-humoured guest does this? Is this seen in the "world?"

Prov.

funkyderek

DaCheech:

cost per plate: $70
envelope from JW's:$20 / per pers
envelope from worldly: $100 per pers.including (2) $100 lord & taylor gift cert from couple
envelope from family: $200 per pers.

Not being a JW anymore .... priceless!

babygirl75

007...sorry you had such a bad wedding/reception experience.

I had an amazing wedding & reception as a JW, the only problem was it was with the wrong guy!!!! Everything was perfect at the wedding & reception, we had a great catered dinner, had a singer that preformed for our guest while we did pictures and then had a DJ for the rest of the night. Not everyone was invited to the reception, it was by invitation only. Sad to say, but I think this is key. This weeds out the ones that come just to mooch & get a free meal...

My Pioneer Wedding =Didn't get much money/gifts from invited Brothers!

RR

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