Ex-JWs off the Radar? (page 3)

Bring_the_Light

The Internet is the debvil! All it takes is 1computer to get demon and it spreads to all connected machines then into the mouse and keyboard. A Christian shouldn't even touch a computer for fear of getting a demon. Compy = Ouija Board = smurfs

Quirky1

I found this site while looking for support. I had been surfing many of the Ex JW sites and spotted this one on Randy's Freeminds. It helped me decompress for the JW mindset. But each person is individually different and may not want the support JWD or other forums may have to offer.

nomoreguilt

I've been a fader now for 4 years. Before that I tried fading but always got narced on by my ex for questionable practices on my part. They always kept dragging me back with guilt and the like. Maybe once or twice I googled JW and just happened to stumble upon this past fall. This was a good thing.

However, I told my best friend, an exjw about JWD. NOPE!! He' and his wife aren't interested in anything having to with anything about jw's. Oh, well.

NMG

StAnn

I'm not sure about the middle ground stuff, either. One of the things that has happened to me since coming to this site is that I'm reading the WT articles/books posted here. I hadn't read any of their literature in years. Now it just makes me very angry to read their lies and ridiculous assertions. I'm seeing them much more as a hate group, and my feeling that my ex-family and ex-friends are just good people who are mislead is being replaced by the feeling that anyone who can embrace these teachings must be really sick and twisted. I'm starting to pull away from my ex-family because I don't want to be around people who think like they do. Maybe I'm having an extreme reaction. The new book has put me over the edge because it's so filled with vitriol and hate. My tolerance for active Dubs has dropped considerably of late.

I think this kind of reaction from someone like me could seriously "turn off" someone who hasn't embraced the falseness of the WTS. A fear of being fully informed about the Dubs is one of the reasons an ex-JW might stay away from internet research. Kinda the head-in-the-sand approach, until they're ready to deal with it emotionally.

Does that make any sense to anyone else?

StAnn

Seeker4

We've discussed this before. I know a lot of ex-JWs, and very few are involved with JWD. My guess is that I figure less than one in 10 gets involved. It may be much less than that.

But you gotta figure for every ex active on here, there are 10 or 20 times that number who are out but not into the ex-JW websites.

S4

sammielee24

I agree with Pubsinger. For those who leave and never do the research, they are never really 'free' of the mentality and hold the WTS has on them. They think they can leave and never give it a thought, but, and most especially for those born and/or raised in it, there remain deep seated images and ideals that move them along in life - sometimes in very negative ways.

Linking up to this board doesn't mean a person hasn't left - I think it means that a person is at the point where their fear, guilt and belief, ingrained from the WTS, has relinquished it's hold enough to allow them to question, learn and listen. That is a healthy attitude.

For those non witnesses, or UBM's, or those who are sitting on the fence - places like this are a way to hear the stories, feel the pain, understand the methods of madness that are the WTS and then come away making their own decisions on how they feel. The stories and information shared can reach a far greater audience and with tremendous impact - it can change a life - and maybe save one - something that cannot happen if people run away but never speak. .....sammieswife.

Witness 007

Look at all those thousands of names who once posted here. Now only afew hundred post if that! Many have cured themselves and moved on while others stay to help.

truthseeker

Interesting discussion.

If you grew up in the truth like me and left/faded/whatever, then you may not have developed the social skills to make friends easily with non-JWs. This might limit you to seek out association with like-minded individuals who were part of the organization.

I've accepted the fact because of how this religion has affected me, a small part of it will always be a part of me. I cannot forget that my childhood was part of it. I can ignore that part of course, but then I have to remind myself why I'm doing that.

At best, I can just hope to complete my fade and pay the religion less and less attention.

Part of me will always wonder what happens next.

Poztate

It all got Besty and I wondering how many ex-JW's are out there who never bother checking out the Internet. I actually think that there is a much higher percentage of people who have left who are quite happy to forget all about the whole experience.

My Brother is like that. He left in his early 20's and never looked back. I showed him some links to www.jwfacts.com and www.freeminds.com

He showed little interest although he did look at the pages.

He has truly moved past the stage when you describe yourself as an X-JW to just being himself. Free at last..Free at last...Free at last.

I still think of myself as an X-JW although I have been out since 1982.

I would say that is due to the fact that I am still married to a dub wife who believes that the sun rises and sets on the FDS.

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