The last witness funeral I attended, we left the funeral parlor and then the funeral proceded to the kH, but they never brought the casket inside the hall, he stayed outside while the talk was given. His wife was not a witness, she reallly went through the crap.
No Emotion at Funerals
by DiscoSandy 23 Replies latest jw experiences
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blondie
This tends to be a cultural thing. In general, I have observed that there is only some quiet crying at funerals in countries such as the US, Germany, etc.
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nomoreguilt
I HAD one of my 2 best friends drop dead, heart attack. . We laughed together, fished together, drank together, had our kids get married together, to each other. We were the essence of 2 guys enjoying each others friendship. His wife is a dub. He was not. She was Judgemental as hell. Our kids married each other. The they got divorced. Still, we were the best of friends.
So, my BUDDIE dropped dead, just like that, we didn't see it coming. He never complained. So, my wife and I went to the funeral home and I BALLED my eyes out. The whole place was crawling with jw's . NOT a single one of them showed any concern about his passing. They were all off in their little groups talking about everything else BUT MY BUDDIE!!
I had quit going to the kh by then and I knew that the memorial talk would not have said a word about WHO he WAS and who really cared about him. I, needless to say didn't go to the talk. I had said my good byes to him in private and with DIGNITY. The dignity that only a TRUE friend could give him.
My thoughts
NMG
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WTWizard
They spend the time ranting about the resurrection hope. The one funeral I went to (in lieu of field circus), no one was any more emotional than at a regular boasting session. They had the stock talk, and they sang a Kingdumb Malady that the deceased might have liked. It was all about the resurrection. What a waste of time--at least I got out of field circus that day.
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candela
This is so bad, you will probably think I'm making it up, but I promised you it's the absolute truth.
Years ago a brother in our congregation had a 19 year old daughter who never baptized, although she was raised in the "truth". I was younger (about 13) at the time and I remember her particularly because she was always really sweet, but also because I've never met a more beautiful woman in my life. She was simply stunning! Imagine a Halle Berry type girl, but taller with eyes like Angelina Jolie's!
Anyway, she was not active but everyone in the congo knew her very well. God knows why, this girl decided to take her own life...his father found her hanging from the shower with her own belt. It was a real tragedy!
Here comes the funeral. First, some elders were opposed to give any kind of talk because she had killed herself. In the end they agreed to give the talk out of consideration for the dad, regardless of the terrible sin she had committed. When the time comes to give the talk in the funeral, the elder did the usual funeral speech and THEN continued to clarify that the hope for life in paradise probably did not apply to her, because what she did was a sin greater than most. And the family should find comfort with each other because there was really no hope of eternal life for this particular daughter.
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BluesBrother
Last one I went to, speaker threw in some funny lines and they all laughed ! (true)
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sacolton
Well, to have emotions, you first have to have a heart. Being a JW, the organization turns you into a empty shell of a human. You cry if the organization tells you to cry. Most JWs couldn't cry unless they were told to. I've been to my share of JW funerals and all it is is more of the same brain-washing they get from all the meetings. Instill fear. Organization first. Work for your salvation!
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buckster
Candela. I have heard of this type of circumstance before. It has happened more often than I would care to think about.
No one in the organization ever wants to take responsibility for the high rate of depression amongst its followers.
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startingover
If it's a JW funeral at a funeral home where there is a body present, I think it's different. Most JW funerals I have gone to now are at the KH and there's no body. When my folks passed 3 weeks apart they had KH funerals, and there were some tears as the line passed by me, but aside from that little area of the hall, a look around revealed that most there were hanging out and laughing like they usually do at meetings.
I expected that behavior, but I can imagine that someone who had never been around JW's before would be taken back by it.
I had a real difficult time with my folks passing, mainly because I am an only child and the sense of being alone as an orphan was overwhelming. But I was told by several who saw my pain that it was because I had no hope.
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Finally-Free
I've never seen a tear shed at a JW funeral. When my mom died we had our own funeral. The JWs had a "memorial" for her a couple of weeks later. I didn't attend because I wasn't interested in being shunned at my mothers infomercial.
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