Dude, I've said it before, but RUN from the chicks who play mind games of ANY kind. If she gets violent, don't just leave; call the cops, file a report and THEN leave. That way, if she does do something messed up, you have an official record of what she's up to. It's better to be by yourself than to be stuck with some chick who sucks the life out of you by being insane. If they can't handle money, RUN!!! God forbid you get married and then she drags you into bankruptcy with her!
Crossroads
by ColdRedRain 36 Replies latest jw experiences
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iceguy
Tell her you have one more trauma she can flashback to and put in her book of secrets that will never get solved...YOU TELLING HER TO GET LOST!!!
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WTWizard
Personality flaws are nothing new (we all have some). However, this sounds more like something that is going to be a potential threat to your emotional growth. The violent temper is probably enough.
Once this happens, there is a very good chance that you are going to find yourself in a controling situation where you will have very little freedom. True, in any relationship, you have to compromise and give up a measure of freedom. However, it is not normal for a person to demand total allegiance (and this is what it sounds like). Almost like what the Filthful and Disgraceful Slavebugger demands. And once it gets to that point, it might not be worth keeping the relationship going.
Being out of date on the current events and wasting money are more penny ante flaws by comparison. It's the bad temper and the freedom issue that will only get worse with the passage of time that sends the warnings to break up now before it's too late.
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kurtbethel
Spending her money and going broke, then wanting you to bail her out, that alone is grounds for it not working. There is no amount of money you can pour down that rat hole to make that problem go away.
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avishai
Sounds like my ex. When they hit, kick, etc. leave. There may come a time when you have to defend yourself (she comes @ you w/ a knife, etc.) and even if you defended yourself, you'd legally look like bad guy with your martial arts training. I went through YEARS of dealing with that shit.
Here's a good way to look at it. Even if you don't want kids in a million years, how would your life be if you had a kid w/ this woman? It can happen, and think about what that kids life would be like? -
ex-nj-jw
She constantly calls me cheap because I prefer to buy prepackaged burritos and carry tea bags with me when we go out rather than buying food from restaurants
I'd call you cheap too. Why go out just stay at home.
As for all the other complaints you need to end this relationship.
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Preston
You're 10 years old CRR, don't you think you're a bit young to be in a relationship!?!
Besides, if you continue long term with her you're going to inherit all her problems and it will be a lonely road for you when she chases away all your friends when she thinks you're spending too much time with them.
Roll like the black bisexual republican that you are!
DTMFA!
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Gopher
She'll be fine without you. Eventually you'll meet someone who actually adds to your life rather than subtracts from it. Although there may never be a perfect relationship between two adults, you need to find someone who appreciates you for exactly who you are, and whom you can appreciate and accept for exactly who they are. Easier said than done, but once done, it's good.
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bluesbreaker59
Dump that now and run for the hills young man!!!! She sounds crazier than my ex-wife.
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LouBelle
You either accept her with all her flaws and don't expect her to change or leave her.
I can't make 50 bucks last 4 hours either...but not all the time *shrug* One can't judge a person by that.
The past (perhaps it's better left there, does she need to tell her past?) Violence - a kick? ask yourself is she honestly a threat to you - a man - so much stronger than her? (unless of course she's a strong girl)
Have you tried talking to her about your concerns. Open honest communication is best. Relationships usually take a bit of work and compromise and you shouldn't want to change anyone.