Shunned again

by tak 46 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Billy the Ex-Bethelite

  Tsk, tsk, tsk. Please share with him this quote from the newly release, "Keep Yourselves in God's Love". Chapter 14 "Be Honest in All Things", page 163, para 9.

  Such teaching places an important obligation on parents. The apostle Paul asked: "Do you, however, the one teaching someone else, not teach yourself? You, the one preaching 'Do not steal,' do you steal?" (Romans 2:21) Some parents confuse their children by teaching about honesty while acting dishonestly themselves. They may justify petty theft and deceptive words with such excuses as "Oh, they expect people to take these things" or "That was just a little white lie, a fib." In reality, stealing is stealing, regardless of the value of the item stolen, and lying is lying, regardless of the subject matter of the scope of the untruth.(Luke 16:10)...

  It's time to stop his dishonesty. Hojovah would want you to do the right thing.

  B the X
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  tak

  I think I was just reproved!!

  Good point Billy
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  ex-nj-jw

  Well, let him know you are cancelling the insurance, then. He's disowned his mother. Let him feel the pain of paying the full cost of that decision.

  I agree with jgnat!

  As mothers we always want better for our children and we don't want to see them hurt, suffer or need for things. But if he loves jehoover more than his mother, let jehoover and the JW's pay for his insurance. He can't have it both ways, time to cut the cord! He's a man making manley decisions, let him take care of his own insurance.

  nj
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  Billy the Ex-Bethelite

  I think I was just reproved!!

  Good point Billy

  tak, the best JWParents are EX-JWParents !
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  OnTheWayOut

  If the car is in your name so he can save some money then it's time for him to step up a be a man and pay his own way. Maybe the great Jehober will help him out.

  I am just going to say more of the same.

  "Son, it hurts me that you shun me. If you are to have no dealings with your
  own mother, then you should break all business ties. I can either keep the car
  or sell it to you. I will not keep it in my name and allow you to use it."

  "Since you paid for it, you can buy it for one dollar (or whatever the minimum is).
  But I will be cancelling my insurance on it TODAY when you assume title or I
  expect it returned to me TODAY."

  "If you feel this is unfair, I would be glad to sit down as a loving trusting family
  member and discuss this with you. Otherwise, you know your options."
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  Bobbi

  How old is your son?
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  jgnat

  See, the problem is if we accept the bad behavior, we are sending the message that it is OK. You are declaring to those closest to you that you are no more worthy than a worm.

  You are much more than that. You are a strong, worthy woman.
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  bluesbreaker59

  Yep give him a dose of tough love. He made a big boy decision with buying the car, and another one with shunning his own mother. Now there are consequences.

  My mom, who has been DF'd since I was 5 used to give me that treatment occasionally. Now we're both DF'd and our relationship is wonderful!!!
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  Honesty

  Well, let him know you are cancelling the insurance, then. He's disowned his mother. Let him feel the pain of paying the full cost of that decision.
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  Hope4Others

  Tough love isn't that easy to do with your children, believe me!

  I think moms have too big of a heart....regardless of what the kids do....

  hope4others