djk:
I love quite a few people, my wife is no exception, but I'm not IN love with them.
There is a difference. Do you find that confusing?
ya............call me shallow
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do you love me??......
by oompa 43 Replies latest jw friends
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oompa
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JK666
Oompa,
I COULD love her????
You either do or you don't, especially after all of the years you have been together! It is kind of like being half pregnant.
It's time to "man up" and figure out where YOU are in the relationship. Have you ever told her you love her before she does you? If not, I can see why she would be very insecure.
Grow some stones, dude, and look inward, not outward.
JK
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MsMcDucket
Well, I love ya like a rock! Remember that song!
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oompa
ya jk..... i knew an insightful bro would pick up on that........oompa
- love is way easier with that three fold cord thingy....now just a 2 strand stringy
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flipper
OOMPA- Yeah bro- I love ya very much ;like a bro should ! I wasn't able to finish saying to you the other day what we were talking about , as we were leaving the beach, but I was raised a JW too, like you from birth . And we were always told that if we had a 3 fold cord in a marriage then all our other differences would work out because Jehovah would help us - and ALL we needed was the common thing of having a 3 fold cord with Jah and the rest would fall into place ! But that is NOT true ! A marriage has to have a lot of things in common and respect has to go further than just 2 people's religious views !
I was married 19 years to my 3 adult children's mom , but outside of being Jehovah's Witnesses, we had little else in common that we enjoyed doing together - we were considered stellar great parents to our children in the congregation- but as a married couple , we were unhappy as hell ! Do you and your wife DO authentic real, non-witness things together ? Will she go out dancing with you, listening to music ? Does she enjoy nice views , the beach. mountains, etc ? Does she like antique stores ? Shopping ? My wife now, Mrs. Flipper and I find that it takes reaching out to find what the other person's interests are, and both parties being willing to bend some to look into the other's interests ! So- those are just ideas thought I would throw out guy ! Call me again, we can talk sometime ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper
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New light for you
I LOVE THE OOMP!!!!
LET ME TELL YOU, the man can COOK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dont let him show your husband how to use firearms though.... dont ask... just dont do it!
Anyway, Changelings dip was AWESOME.. i need the recipe...
NOW, OOMP... how much more time do you want to devote to wondering what to do about your wife? i think you should have a time limit. 6 months? one year? how many more years are you going to let pass you by before you get a taste of the "good life?"
Personally, to me, if you're questioning it so much, you must know the answer. everyone here seems to know the answer.
LOve you, and we're here for you... WITHOUT conditions!!
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bonnzo
'course i do ! how could i resist that cute lil 'ol ass o' yours! however, i hate that sob murphy rollins!
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Kinjiro
now that you can dance??? sure.....
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wings
The question should be....is love enough? I know you well enough to know that you love your wife. She must love you, you are so "special" after all. For me love wasn't enough. You have to decide for yourself which hard road you take. No matter which one, you have no choice but to start your path so you can reinvent your life and start living again. wings
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oompa
Littleblueuk: Is it possible to put all of the religious stuff aside and have a normal relationship???
Very good question. No it isn't possible. I can put all religious things aside....but she can't. A big part of a normal relationship for me is sharing friends.....whether dinner out, a beach trip, or a cruise....or having a bunch over for a grill and volleyball. I have new friends she will never allow herself to do this with, so then my marriage is not normal at all....but one with HER friends....and MY friends. A really good marriage counseler may help me discover how to live in such marriage and be happy.
Burning bridges: I am eternally impressed at the amount of effort that you put into this woman.
lol....i am just really really bad with time management.....geeze that was a fast three years and I'm still in the batters box.
CHANGELING....i just wish i had your strength
A@G :I don't feel that I have a normal relationship either. My wife thinks its fine that my ex-friends shun me. Her agreement with a pharisaical org is a big turn-off right there.
I think all of us with one in one out status know that these are not NORMAL relationships.....interesting point on the bigh turn-off.......we may indeed love our wifes....but just not be able to live with a JW anymore....that may be a painful truth.....Wings helped me see that in her post here.....maybe love is not enough.
Newlight: how many more years are you going to let pass you by before you get a taste of the "good life?"
Personally, to me, if you're questioning it so much, you must know the answer. everyone here seems to know the answer.
Just OUCH girl! I have a feeling I have worn out some of my fellow board members here with wifetalk....sorry. However you do ask an important question as to how many more years...so thanks. Sometimes it seems obvious....but I am now forcing either a change or an end to this relationship....I went to great marriage counselor yesterday for the first time....and my wife and I are scheduled back in next week. This counselor knows all about WT and JW's but is not offended by them or critical....which is why I picked her.....she has counseled many witness couples btw. So that is a big start for me..........thanks all...........oompa