ANOTHER EXPERIENCE THAT I WANTED TO SHARE: Ok, this happened to me a few years ago. I was between jobs, and I decided to use that time to auxiliary pioneer. I had never been able to do it before and I was very excited. Well, about 2 weeks into the month, I ended up getting a wicked case of pneumonia. If anyone here has had pneumonia, you know what I was going through. So of course, I was down and out for the rest of the month. I was too sick to leave my bed, much less go out in the freezing cold weather for hours a day. I missed about 3 weeks of meetings because I was just entirely too sick. My husband called the service overseer and explained the situation and that I wouldn't be able to make my time. He seemed cool with it, very "caring." When I finally got back to the meeting, this brother (the service overseer) approaches me. Did he ask how I was feeling? NO! Did he ask how he could help me out? NO! Do you know what the first words out of this mouth were? He said "I hope you don't plan on signing up to pioneer again, because not making your time is disgusting!" I was SHOCKED!! I just stood their in disbelief, with a range of emotions swelling up at the same time. I was hurt, and at the same time angry....By the way, this same brother also told my best friend (at the time) that she needed to "push back from the dinner table" because he thought she was getting too fat. This girl could be a supermodel! I guess he just enjoys tearing people down.
Happiness
by heybaby 22 Replies latest jw experiences
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sacolton
You have no idea how many stories are similar to yours. This is just the normal attitude of most elders. I've told an elder that I was getting married (a Sister from another congregation) and he was furious. He told me not to get married because he had plans for me to go to Bethel. This was at a time when I was already situated in a career and ready to settle down and he wanted me to give it all up for a few years of Bethel. Well, I disappointed him and he didn't show for our wedding. Years later he continued to avoid me at the assemblies. Loving, eh?
Another time is when we were about to go out on service and it started raining and I wear hearing aids and didn't want them to get wet (rain + electronics = bad news) and his response was: "Well, at least you have an excuse!"
What a jerk!
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bluesbreaker59
My dad, the elder, finally had to admit to me the other day that I'm happier than he's ever seen me, and he can tell that when he talks to me. He also said that "My happiness was all that ever mattered to him, nothing else matters." Things have been great for ole Bluesbreaker since leaving the Borg. I wished I could be with my dad more, and that I could get the motivation up to lose some weight but otherwise my life is better than its ever been.