did your wife run off and get pregnant? (page 3)

oompa

ST. Ann, life gets so screw up sometimes.....his little girl did nothing wrong, nor did my wifes 8astard child so i am very nice to him....but dick had already dealt with this, he had used his coping mechanism up with the abortion plan......so i kinda understand why he could not face it after that....he can only cope with so much, and that whole best friend behind my back and lets have a wedding with abortion money is a pretty serious minfluck!...........good luck to you both

StAnn

Oompa, you're correct, it's not the child's fault. I've wondered how she is. She would be at least 30 years old now. It must have been hard growing up with no dad, and knowing that your dad didn't want to have anything to do with you. Made me feel sorry for her.

On the plus side for those who've raised children that aren't their own, I have a cousin who didn't know that her dad (my uncle) was not really her dad until she was an adult. He knew but raised her anyway. My cousin says that, no matter what happens, she just loves my uncle to death because he treated her just like his other kids and raised her well and loved her, even though she wasn't his. My uncle felt that, even though she wasn't his, she was a sibling to his three other children and that all of the kids should be raised together. I think that was very loving of him and of others who decide to raise these children, who could easily fall through the cracks.

StAnn

misguided

While we were both still active jw's, my now ex-husband left 10 days before our 5th baby (our oldest was 5 1/2 at the time) and moved in with a girl from his work. OUCH! He was not even there for her birth.

That baby turned 15 yesterday.

Funny story, kind of related. My grandma passed, and we went to the "memorial" on the weekend. My oldest daughter was sitting in the "family" section. Her grandmother (the mom of the ex mentioned above - still a JW) came up to her and asked her how she was related to the family...my daughter said, "uh...I'm YOUR granddaughter."

dinah

oomps, you have a pm.

oompa

misguided: While we were both still active jw's, my now ex-husband left 10 days before our 5th baby (our oldest was 5 1/2 at the time) and moved in with a girl from his work. OUCH! He was not even there for her birth.

oh misguided....that is beyond awful....that is just pure selfish evil....and i have a feeling he was not on meds maybe?....just a huge walking turd?....that is almost unbelievable, and i hope you have recovered.....and ya...there is a sick humor about that funeral story................good luck..........oompa

The Missus

Sacolton - are you sure you aren't thinking of "Along Came Polly"?

I'm sorry, that really bites

OnTheWayOut

.....can anybody top that?....step up to the plate....

Your story is certainly rough. But most of us, even you, can top it.

Many of us woke up to "the truth" yet we stayed with a JW, some
continue on to go to the meetings and still sell the literature door-to-door.

Seriously, strength to you.

nomoreguilt

A young brother , 30ish, that I had known since he was 10 or so was married to a very HOT looking blond sister. JW wedding the whole shot. Well, she had an affair with a black nn jw guy, got pregnant, and he divorced her. She never married the father of the baby.

Funny thing you bring this up, as I just ran into him this morning at one of my accounts, haven't seen him in 2 years or so. He's doing very well. Not a jw anymore and he has come to relaize what all of us here have about the jw's. He's very happy ...

NMG

OnTheWayOut

Doesn't top other stories but I thought I would throw one in there:

This guy was an MS. His wife cheated and got pregnant. Once she
knew she was pregnant, she went to a shrink and claimed RAPE but
had suppressed it. The guy knew better. He separated from her.

The brothers said they had no proof that she was lying. He said he knew
better, that she admitted it to him. They said something along the lines
of "two confirms a matter" and "she denies it, and denies telling you differently."
The brothers said they would have to remove him as an MS.

"Remove me, then."

"We'll have to remove you as a pioneer, also."

"Remove me, then."

Long before the baby was born and proved not to be his, he divorced her.
The brothers said he no longer would qualify to be ANYTHING in the congregation.
He could comment and be on the school and clean, but never a microphone handler
or nothing. (Sounds like a favor to me, now.) They said he would have to
reconcile with his "scriptural" wife before he had congregational privileges.

So he stayed divorced and never reconciled with her. He has been in this limbo for
several years, yet he faithfully remains a JW. He has no plans to reconcile and
knows that he will be DF'ed if he dates, so he doesn't date.

momzcrazy

OK, I'm gonna give it a run.

I think the best man from our wedding deserves some award, maybe even the gullible award.

He got married 2 weeks before we did. Three years later she cheated on him with a non jw she met at work. Don goes crazy and sleeps with anyone that will have him. Obviously not attending anymore. Never been bugged for a JC either.

He meets Kat, who has a daughter from a rape, but she doesn't have custody of her. She was taken away because she went outside alone while mom was passed out stoned on the couch. Kat gets some kind of choke hold on Don. They move in together and begin the process of regaining custody of Susie. They succeed. Don and Kat get married. Even though he knows she has a meth and rx drug addiction. She only has sex with him when she thinks she's ovulating. Hear the trap shut around Don's head?

She is also cheating on him, and more than likely turning tricks to cover drugs. They come to visit us. She does nothing, at all, nothing. They fight and yell at each other and Susie. Kat admits to me she has cheated 7 or eight times, in 1 years' marriage. Don knows too, yet she is still around.

Finally cheating turns into a pregnancy. Everyone knows it isn't Don's, even Don. But his name is on the BC as Dad. Brian is small and a little slow because of Mom's drug use while pregnant. So Don is now raising 2 kids and neither are his.

A divorce is now final, due to the drug use and cheating. Don gets full custody of the two kids, who aren't his remember. Kat moves to CA. Don moves into his parent's basement so he can have help raising the kids while working. Things are good, smooth.

A phone call from Kat. I am pregnant again. I miss my kids. I will be the best wife ever. Please let me come home. Welcomed with open arms.

Oh, the new baby? The plan is that Kat will grow the child, nurse her, and turn her over to her daddy to raise. See, she has it all solved!

Now Don has THREE kids to raise, NONE are his. The baby is weened, but still living there. Her child support pays for mommy's drugs see.

Saw the happy family this summer. Mommy was "at her mom's" until 11 pm. Don had worked all day, taken kids to dinner with us, come home, cleaned up the vomit of Susie, fed and changed Baby, and tried to spend time with an old friend.

Mommy comes home high, and with her pants undone. Another baby soon maybe?

They aren't married, but still living together in mom and dad's basement.

So oomps, what do you think?

did your wife run off and get pregnant?

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