Is it true that the 1st 2 yrs of marriage/living together are the hardest?

Snoozy

I would think it would be the 7th year...that's why they invented the "Seven year itch"!..

Tip of the day: All women should stay married for at least 10 years..that way they can collect SS on their husbands salary when they retire...that is if the husband makes more than she does...But at least you leave the choice open..they make make a fortune and their SS will reach the Max...

Snoozy..

mrsjones5

I think the first couple of years are the honeymoon stage. It's get harder when the lovey dovey honeymoon stage is over...real life hits ya.

no more kool aid

I think the first couple of years were a lot of fun, the only dark cloud was in law drama (we all went to the same hall, I wouldn't recommend it). When real life kicks in, it seems to ebb and flow sometimes are a little more difficult and other times are effortless lovey dovey again. That's just my experience, but aren't you the guy that has been married 7 yrs and no sex for 6yrs. None of those years would work for me.

oompa

HELLNO!....ya...the honeymoon stage is for real...and is supposed to help wipe away and probs associated with learning the faults of the other, or the many differences you find between you too.....i say, forget that opposites attract thing even if true....make sure you like to do what the other does....and LOVE the same things....like JEHOVER...........oompa

so sorry for my wife i changed on that one.....i do feel bad about it

cognac

hmmm, first year I had a lot more growing up and maturing to do then hubby.

2nd year - 1st half was terrible because I found out the truth about the truth. Yeah, wasn't to good. That's when I saw the cult side of him that I never really saw before. The claws really came out then. But, he learned to be more patient and loving and I learned a bit about tact and patience and love also.

After that, our relationship completely changed. Just, something happened. We got so connected and so intune with eachother we just became inseperable. I think because I'm out of the cult I love in a way that I could never before. But, something happened with him also. Don't really know how to explain it. But, it's wonderful!

I guess relationships evolve. I would think it depends on if each partner is willing to keep working on there own qualities and how to show the other one love.

I know when I was showing myself to not be such a nice person hubby just kept loving me anyways. He could have easily kept pointing out where I failed and he would have been right. However, because he was the way he was, I eventually was able to look at myself more clearly and work on what I needed to work on.

Anywho, that's what the first 2 years were like for us. But, I would think that every couple is different.

beksbks

It really depends on the people involved, but, personally I think the first couple of years are the hardest.

Highlander

The first two years are the hardest. And then it gets worse.

Homerovah the Almighty

There is some obvious truth in that when two individuals begin living together they are starting to closely learn the intricatesties of each others personalty and character.

FlyingHighNow

The first year can be hard, depending on whom you are with. Then again, the first year can be very good. But then as life gets real and you experience stress, things can go a bit sour. The more you know someone, the more real they become. I believe some key things that help a union to smooth out are compatibility, unselfishness, never discussing control or who is boss unless it's tongue and cheek, realistic expectations and being sure you are both through with sowing your wild oats, to name a few. Some great chemistry is always, always a plus.