I've never agreed more with Flipper. If it's the right person it shouldn't be hard, if it's not then every year will be hard.
Bizzy Bee - you cracked me up! But you are SO right.
Is it true that the 1st 2 yrs of marriage/living together are the hardest?
by mtsgrad 25 Replies latest jw friends
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Scully
My ideal would be to have 3- or 5-year terms in a marriage, with interim evaluations on each anniversary date. If things are not to the couple's liking, then they can dissolve the marriage after 3 or 5 years, without having to divorce. Divorce would be reserved for dissolving the marriage prior to the conclusion of each 3- or 5-year term. The couple would have the option to renew the contract at the end of the term, or simply go their separate ways. Not unlike leasing a car, I guess.
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BizzyBee
My ideal would be to have 3- or 5-year terms in a marriage, with interim evaluations on each anniversary date. If things are not to the couple's liking, then they can dissolve the marriage after 3 or 5 years, without having to divorce. Divorce would be reserved for dissolving the marriage prior to the conclusion of each 3- or 5-year term. The couple would have the option to renew the contract at the end of the term, or simply go their separate ways. Not unlike leasing a car, I guess.
Well, we basically have that. But the problem is that marriage is not just about the legal bits - it is the emotional bits that de-rail perfectly happy divorces. I know of ill-suited couples who have managed to stay together for many years because they simply cannot manage the initial upheaval of divorce.
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FlyingHighNow
Divorce also hurts kids for the rest of their lives. Even if the divorce was due to severe abuse, kids still hurt as adults.
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stillajwexelder
In my experience the adjustments come in the first few years and so yes they are the hardest. It definitely gets easier as the years pass
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ninja
the first two years ...they are hardest....but viagra helps keep it hard in later years.....he he