want to say what you said: "i want to make it seem like it's the org that forbids it".I want to plant seeds without them telling other jws somthing that will get me on the apostate radar
yes but how old are your children? kids cant necessarily distinguish the impracticality of those restrictions. Are they really able to understand the difference between the org and God?
the WTS makes very sure to create the understanding, unsconcious or otherwise, that these rules come from God. You may only be furthering the guilt that so many ex-JW's live with when attempting to have a normal life and enjoy holiday celebrations.