Thanks for all your advice.
I'm sure he's not married and have another girlfriend. I won't chase him anymore but let him come to me if he wants.
I'll keep you posted.
/Newborn
When a guy doesn't text (sms) you back...
by Newborn 46 Replies latest jw friends
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Witness 007
You could sing the Stevie Wonder hit..."I just caaalled to saay I luv you......."
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It's ok for a woman to chase a man a little bit. It shouldn't always be the guy always chasing. I personally hate it when a woman never initiates anything and acts aloof. And if you have been seeing this guy for months and sleeping with him, you are entitled to text him often...that is not chasing him. Has to be some reciprocating by the woman, but the main thing is the man should do most of the chasing.
But in this case, yes, put him on ice and let him come to you.
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rocketman
"I won't chase him anymore but let him come to me if he wants." Maybe that was the problem. If he perceives some desperation on your part, he likely won't be interested.
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FlyingHighNow
It's ok for a woman to chase a man a little bit. It shouldn't always be the guy always chasing. I personally hate it when a woman never initiates anything and acts aloof. And if you have been seeing this guy for months and sleeping with him, you are entitled to text him often...that is not chasing him. Has to be some reciprocating by the woman, but the main thing is the man should do most of the chasing.
When you're a woman, you don't need to let a man think you're chasing him. It's different to flirt and let him know in no uncertain terms that you like him, but chasing? No. Being aloof is never good. I don't advocate that, but with the way men and women are geared in their thinking, men like at least some challenge and women like a man to pursue and woo, that is if a woman is interested in the guy. If the lady is not interested, she will not want him to woo her.
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Jim_TX
There has already been a lot of words written to you and very good advice. My words are not that important.
I know that these days, with all of the Instant Messaging that is available... the younger generation uses this as a way to communicate... even using their LOLs, CYL8r, and other shortcut words.
The thing to keep in mind is that the SMS system is not that accurate. That is... sometimes, you may send a text-message, and pressing 'send' you feel that it shows up at his phone (or whatever device he uses) immediately. So, after 5 to 15 minutes of nothing, you start to feel a bit miffed... as he hasn't responded.
SMS messages get delivered - whenever - and you are not notified whether or not the delivery was successful - much less when it got delivered. So - he may not get it for an hour or more, if at all. (My wife sent me a text message recently, and when I got home - hours later - she poutingly said "You didn't answer my text message." "Huh?", I said... "What text message?" I pulled out my cell phone, and enabled the screen - only to have it start-up notifying me of an incoming text message.)
So. I'm not saying he never gets the messages right away... and I'm not saying that he's not responding after he reads them... but keep an open mind to how the technology works.
Another thought. I had a girlfriend once that did not work. She stayed home - and had a LOT of time to sit and think. ...and write e-mails - to me. Which she did quite frequently. At the time, I was scrambling for work, and would see some of them come through, but was in the middle of something, and so would read the e-mail, and decide to think of a nice reply to send later.
Well... after a bit, another e-mail would come through... then another... and with each e-mail, the 'tone' would be more and more upset.
It got to be very difficult for me to try to keep her calm, and explain that I was not ignoring her, I was busy. Meanwhile, since she did not work, she would sit and brood... and get steamed up... and so it went. I was both sorry, and happy when that relationship ended. I guess she might have been considered a 'high maintenance' gal... or paranoid... or... well... hopefully she is doing well.
Get the point? I hope you and this fella do well. I really do. Just be careful - if you are really interested in him.
Regards,
Jim TX -
Newborn
Dear Jim TX, thanks for your message and personal experiences. Helpful. I appreciate.
/Newborn