how much has your EXIT consumed you?????

oompa

i think i must be a bit obsessive.....i cant shut up apostating every chance i get to any old freind or family that will listen.....i drive a lot and jwshit is on my mind more than anything else....and i come here many times a day and it seems like i have been here for two years at least but it is just over a year i believe....every step i take and plan i make is about whether or not i can do it with my wife or behind her back (like otwo and others here).......she is about to go out of town for over a week and it is like i am planning for christmas!!!......i cant wait to have friends over i only get to when she is gone....the jw effect is still omnipresent and i dont even know how much 45 years of ingraining has wired my brain.........................oompa

hihopes2008

Party's at Oompa's send address :)

OnTheWayOut

It's starting to slow down for me, but I come on these forums everyday,
I belong to the ex-JW meetup group that gathers once a month, I drive
a few hours out to meet others from these forums, I phone ex-JW's
several times a week, I have read most of the anti-Watchtower books.

It is slowing in these ways: I am starting to not give a rat's behind about
proofs for doctrinal error, UN involvement, whether the elders call me ever,
who might see me with ex-JW's. I only guard my tongue for my mother's
sake, so she doesn't feel some JW loyalty struggle whether to shun me or
not. Otherwise, it ain't no big deal.

I think I will always maintain a connection to ex-JW stuff, especially as long
as my wife is a member. But I figure the obsession will die off when I am
ready for it to.

wobble

I am exactly the same Oompa,if not worse, I spend FAR too much time on here,and I hardly work because of it.

I have identified it as PDTS. Post Dub Trauma Syndrome, it is a form of depression best treated with copious amounts of alcohol whilst carousing with like minded apostates.

HAVE A GREAT PARTY!

Love

Wobble

ps I hope I can let go a bit more soon.

OUTLAW

Oompa..Your screwed..LOL!!.........I walked away decades ago..And..Look where I spend a lot of my time..Right here...........It`s harder for us,we were raised in it..We have multiple generations of friends and family in it.....It`s always frigg`n there.....We can`t escape!..LOL!!.........................................OUTLAW

Finally-Free

I obsessed about it constantly for the first 2 years. Then it lessened gradually. Since my mom died 2 years ago I think about it a lot less because I no longer have any JWs in my life. I think forcing myself to get interested in other things helped too. At least I no longer get angry about it.

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Quirky1

For the first few months or so it consumed every part of my life but it does seem to be simmering down now. I do go thru spurts with it tho, only when my JW wifey puts it ahead of me or says something that relates to the JW syndrome. I do for the most part believe I have escaped tho.

megaflower

My obsessiveness with JW stuff comes and goes. Iam not as angry as I use to be. Life is pretty good. The only time I get set off now is when Iam out and run into one of them. Iam not disfellowshipped, I walked away as did my husband. However, when they see me they attempt to get in my face, ugly stares with hands on hips. I even had one MS about 2 weeks ago block the intersection when he saw me driving through. They are so screwed up. I can see it now more than ever. They are such an unhappy group of people, in fact I would go as far as saying miserable. It s no wonder there is a high number of alcoholics, depression amoung them. At least we can all say that we are free from that mind controlled cult. We can think for ourselves and have some measure of fun. Life is no longer a day full of guilt for not measuring up to the WTS standards. Hope you find some peace OOMPA.

Dune

I think years leading up to my exit was what consumed me the most. I went back and looked at my postings on JWD and there was a drop as far on the amount of postings i made after i faded. I seldom even think about the religion until i run into witnesses or things are slow at work and want to chat it up on JWD. At first i had this "Overthrow the Watchtower!!!!!!!!!" mentality. Now, i'm all about living and enjoying life, and i check back every now and then to see if the Orgo has reformed yet.

Dagney

The first few months after I left I was really interested in bringing down the WBTS, or making sure my dubs knew the "troof about the troof."

That didn't work so well. Then I decided I had to concentrate on what I really wanted for my life, and that all I wanted was to live a happy life. That actually has made things easier for me. If things don't align with that, it is easier for me to let it go. It took some some work though, and I'm still evolving...I think everybody is in that area.

But like everybody else here, I have devoted relatives, elders, servants, elderly parent...and being a wit was the greater part of my life...of course there is a tie to anything "jdub." It's still in the convo daily with my ex-jdub mates.

You have a difficult situation, but not unlike many here. Life is to be lived. Try looking at your life like you were another person. What would you think? What advice would you give yourself?

how much has your EXIT consumed you?????

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