how much has your EXIT consumed you????? (page 3)

oompa

dinah....these elder guys are/were some of my closests friends.....i was the best man in my buddy's wedding!........i have asked for "help" three times! (in the past year)....and asked them some of my questions that need answers.....so that it could help me get my faith back.....i am really kinda shocked that my wedding buddy elder......really close since teenageres......he has said he would really research the questions and get back to me..............................................nada................................................even when i see them or chat it never comes up......like it never even happened...............i plan on maintaining this course in hopes one of them will wake up (and i think i am close with one)............ and since they just had WT study articles about helping us lost sheep i was REALLY expeting some "assitance"..............well that word does start with ass..................oompa

parakeet

My 3-year-duration before the final exodus from the dubs rendered me clinically depressed, suicidal, and hospitalized for 6 weeks. I fully expected that when I told my family (not husband -- an unbeliever), they would never speak to me again. While I was still in the hospital, I was given a one-day "furlough" to drive to my parents to tell them I was finished with it -- one of the most difficult things I've ever done. Fortunately, because I didn't DA or DF officially, and my parents didn't tell the elders, we've kept in touch over the years (30 years now). I suppose to the dubs, I'm "inactive."

For about a year afterward, I felt strangely disconnected with everthing around me. Without my base "faith," I didn't know the answers to anything any more. But soon I reveled in the freedom to read, think and act as I chose.

So, fairly happy ending for me compared to some. But no matter what, dubs make it as difficult as possible to leave their cult. Every "apostate" has a horror story to tell. But freedom is worth any amount of struggle. Good luck, oompa.

oompa

parakeet: I felt strangely disconnected with everthing around me.

oh ya!.........lost in a cave for me........so glad you came around i was suicidal and on 6 meds for a year....nearly killed me.............so glad your hubby is not jw....just how happy is he now that you are free with a calm mind.....how was he during your disconnected period?

Black Sheep

According to my non-JW friend of 30 years, who has seen me change from being an unbaptised born-in to a concerned parent and husband of Jehovah's Witlesses....

..... I am overly consumed by my desire not to see children brought up in apocalyptic doomsday cults.

Considering that I have only ever seen him in churches for weddings and funerals I do not place much weight on his opinion.

In his opinion I am a nutcase.

He is probably correct.

It is not my fault. It is not my fault. It is not my fault. It is not my fault. It is not my fault. It is not my fault.

Cheers

Chris

OnTheWayOut

....not a single damm phone call even to "assist me"........cause they know they have no answers...

It's something you will get over, get used to. Even your close elder buddies, they are afraid
that your questioning will bring them down and out of it. It is so ingrained in the teachings that
Satan is in everything and ready to look for cracks in the armor.

Eventually, you won't take it personally when they don't call or anything. You will fully realize
that they are under mind-control. It'll be harder and more frustrating to take the fact that
relatives or your spouse are under it, too. It will keep you frustrated enough to keep the
obsession going for awhile yet.

and since they just had WT study articles about helping us lost sheep i was REALLY expeting some "assitance"

I wondered myself, if they would call. Nothing. I am at the point where I am glad they don't
call. You will be too, hopefully one day.

Scarred for life

OntheWayOut is absolutely right. I know it hurts not to hear from your life long "friends" but you can make new friends that are not JWs and you will eventually accept that your old friends are caught up in a cult and are completely brainwashed. They are afraid. You were brave enough to leave. It will get better and you will never regret leaving the cult.

musky

'I have identified it as PDTS. Post Dub Trauma Syndrome, it is a form of depression best treated with copious amounts of alcohol'

Oh ya, I like the margarita myself. No more problemsa after a couple of those

wha happened?

Initially it was hell. Over time it occupied a smaller and smaller part of my life

parakeet

oompa: "oh ya!.........lost in a cave for me........so glad you came around i was suicidal and on 6 meds for a year....nearly killed me.............so glad your hubby is not jw....just how happy is he now that you are free with a calm mind.....how was he during your disconnected period?"

Sorry for not getting back to you sooner, oompa. We had weekend guests. "Lost in a cave" is a good description of one's mental state after tossing away all that heavy WTS garbage. My metaphor was "adrift at sea." No landmarks. Nothing to hang on to.

My husband was distressed during this time, but his support never wavered. I'm not sure I could have done it without him. He told me much later that he was fairly sure I would eventually see through the lies and leave the dubs. He took quite a gamble in marrying me, a testament to his love for me. All this happened 30 years ago, so we sometimes take our happiness for granted. Your post reminded me that I'm married to one heck of a good guy. (Although he still won't pick up his socks!)

I feel for you, oompa, because you don't have the same support. But, from following your posts for some time now, you have two things going for you. A lot of common sense and a great sense of humor. I think you'll come out all right. But it's still a tough journey.

moshe

As a rule, I don't pay much attention to JW's- that is unless they are dumb enough to come to my door. Then I am like Johnny Cip- the ol' cat-n-mouse game. If they let me bat them around long enough they leave my house all scratched up.

how much has your EXIT consumed you?????

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