I do not know what to say to my female friend yet. (page 2)

yknot

Question......

Can't a girl be pretty / sexy and a boy still not be attracted to her?

EX:..... I think actor so and so is great eye candy but I wouldn't be attracted to have sex or relationship with him based on his looks....

I don't think it would do harm to concur that she is an attractive woman who will meet her deserved prince some day

I agree she sounds needy and is looking for some shameless ego stroking but honestly sometimes a woman might just be feeling a bit low and in need of a quick ego boost.

Maybe remind her to keep her health up by eating right and hitting the gym during this time of transition.

John Doe

Can't a girl be pretty / sexy and a boy still not be attracted to her?

No. Look up the definition of pretty and or sexy.

kurtbethel

I don't think it would do harm to concur that she is an attractive woman who will meet her deserved prince some day

This is bad bad bad reinforcement of Disney programming that has already done so much damage to people. There are few princes and they are usually not permitted to marry commoners, though they can get away with an occasional booty call.

The actual men available to regular women are not princes, so when they do not live up to the programmed expectations they are often blamed and vilified. Nothing good comes of listening to Disney propaganda.

primitivegenius

you do know that you can buy paper sacks with your favorite celebritys faces printed on them................ jk

i have to agree depending on how close you are to her as a friend. if you are tight and talk alot and you couldnt lose her friendship......... treat her like a brother...... tell her shes like a sister to you. then stroke her ego and tell her shes very pretty but beyond that she has a great personality and thats what will make a decent fellow look at her.

encouraging her to get back out there and start dating, going to the gym to feel better about herself........... yeah that might work. i do think it depends on your approach mostly.

depending on whether she really is wanting to be INTO you, she isnt gonna want to hear that you look at her as a friend and nothing more but if you are honest then that cant come back and haunt you. oh im sorry susie........... i got to know you as a friend way back when and i just dont think of you as anything but one of the best friends a person can have. its not that your not pretty, and i love your personality.............. i just dont have THOSE kind of feelings for you and you deserve someone who does......... and you will find someone who does.

steve2

She sounds pretty juvenile to me. Divorces her husband then comes on to you. You worry about hurting her feelings, yet here she is more or less propositioning you and she doesn't seem to even think she could be offending you. In my view, you need to be upfront to her: She's taking a lot for granted by unilaterally trying to put her relationship with you onto another level (i.e., sexual). You don't have to be blunt or cruel - but for the sake of your own self-respect, be honest.

JimmyPage

Yeah, I don't think she wants you to "say" anything to her.

rebel8

There's a way to be honest w/o making her want to throw herself off a bridge. It's immature for her to ask this but she did, and as Jerry Seinfeld would say, there's a big matzo ball hanging out there now.

I agree with a lot of the answers here--

don't respond at all
"I appreciate your friendship, and I'm sure you're going to find love again some day."

White Dove

If asked by someone if they are pretty, never NEVER be honest and say, "No."

Our egos can't handle that anymore than men's can handle: "So, isn't this the BIIIGEST joy stick you've ever seen in your life?" "No, I've seen bigger. Yours is just so-so. Sorry, just being honest."

How would you feel to hear that?

Don't give out answers that you can't take.

Lying definately has its place. Sometimes, truth is overrated.

wha happened?

been there done that. Keep it honest and real or lose the friendship. Make it clear that communication is wide open but there isn't anything there, to transitioning to a different type of relationship. If people have an ounce of hope that the other person may be interested, they'll still try.

John Doe

If asked by someone if they are pretty, never NEVER be honest and say, "No."

Our egos can't handle that anymore than men's can handle: "So, isn't this the BIIIGEST joy stick you've ever seen in your life?" "No, I've seen bigger. Yours is just so-so. Sorry, just being honest."

How would you feel to hear that?

Don't give out answers that you can't take.

Lying definately has its place. Sometimes, truth is overrated.

You've just advocated cheapening the value of communication and living in a false world. For one, I would never ask how big I am (I already know the answer), and if I did, I would want the truth. I will not under any circumstances tell someone they're pretty when they're not. I expect the same in return.

I do not know what to say to my female friend yet.

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