Howdy from a long time lurker (page 3)

Mrs. Fiorini

Welcome to the board and thanks for sharing your story. Keep us posted as things progress.

LockedChaos

Welcome

Leo's my idol too!!

I went from knowing

to knowing nothing

From avoidance

to confrontation

With an unhealthy dose

on cognitave dissonance to boot

I have studied and learned more

this past year than I could have

ever believed

All this after leaving over 29 years ago

Past time lost but a new future gained

Pleased your here!!

Keep thinking

Quandry

Welcome to the forum.

Isn't it hard "knowing" but also "knowing" when you go to the hall you must not tell?

Yes, it is totally devastating when you find things out. But I am sure that, like the rest of us, you'd rather know the truth than be placated with half-truths or outright deception.

Cadellin

Thank you, all of you, for all your wonderful replies/welcomes!!

Quandry: Yes, totally. At least I know. That's huge. This is where my husband and I differ; he doesn't want to know. He actually said to me at one point that he would rather continue in ignorance than put himself through what I was going through (I was doing a lot of crying at that point).

Starting Over: I'm trying to get over the fear...its just that, being raised "in", the "out" is presented as so terrifying and awful. Moreover, everyone and I mean everyone in my immed and extended family, as well as my husband's, are super strong, pioneering, etc. I keep wondering, "what's wrong with me? These are all intelligent people, yet they don't seem to get the gaps in logic, the plain erroneous statements made in print or from the platform, the blatant over the top control tactics. Is it just me?" Sometimes I think I'm going crazy...yes, I've read COC and it was great. It helped but I'm still here, in my own wee sphere...

LockedChaos: You hit the nail on the head. Its good to know there are others experiencing the same thing.

snowbird

Welcome, and I share your sentiments re Leolaia.

I, too, was dismayed when I learned of the WT's intellectual and historical dishonesty.

However, this has strengthened my failth in the Bible - not in its infallibility, but in its Message.

Keep seeking ...

Sylvia

crazycate

Oh Cadellin I so feel for you! The crying! I thought I was going crazy too (note name, Ha!). I can remember sitting at meetings thinking, "why doesn't this bother anyone else?"

Regarding your husband, how does he husband feel about the changing blood doctrine. With some of the other stuff, a person can say (even if I don't agree) that it's not that big a deal. But the policy on blood is often life or death! That is one thing that finally got through to my husband. If these men keep changing things, if they keep getting it wrong, why are we letting them make life or death decisions for us. Does he know that once upon a time they said that transplants were cannabalism? Then they changed it.

Wishing you well, Cate

mouthy

& the mind control turns off.

I wanted to kill myself when the D/F me because I couldnt
believe Jesus came invisably in 1914..

Great to have you aboard this UNconditional love boat (((HUG))

Mouthy/Granny/Grace

Mickey mouse

Cadellin, please check your private messages, I sent you one.

Cadellin

You guys are the best...! Cate: Actually, we've never discussed the blood issue as far as doctrine goes. Weird, huh? I've never thought about it that much, in terms of it being a flip-flop thing (sounds like something you'd wear to the pool). Guess I need to do more research. It's great to hear from other wives; it seems like there are more husbands who wake up to this religion and have their wives stay in, than vica versa.

lonestar63

Welcome to the board Cadellin!!

Your fear is understandable. I had that same fear when i came to my crossroad. Not fear of leaving the Org, but fear my wife would refuse to take that journey with me. You and your husbands fear is the direct result of mind control at its best. I've told others here it's amazing when you look back, and realize how every aspect of your life was controlled by the Society, which is ruled by mostly old, out of touch, unmarried, childless men.

Give your husband time. Give yourself time as well. Folks on here will help you any way they can. I hope the two of you can make that journey out together. My wife and i did, and we are living life to the fullest, have never been happier in our marriage, and most importantly, we are finally free of a mind controlling cult.

She was in her entire life, i was in over 2 decades.

I wish you the best.

Lonestar

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