My mom and sibs are ok with it. It's my wife I am dreading might find out. She is not an uber jw but when it comes to defending them she is among the most tenacious. I have been helping my youngest son who still lives with us to think and make up his own mind. He and his mom get into some pretty heated debates and no matter how hard the evidence is, she is terrified of losing her dad's approval and defends the wt no matter what.
How did your Jehovah`s WItness Family treat you,when you no longer wanted to participate as a Jehovah`s Witness?
by OUTLAW 30 Replies latest jw friends
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Gordy
My JW wife and two JW daughters have not spoken or had contact with me for 8 years.
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oldflame
You don't want to know, I do not think that any other family would do what mine did to me. It was about the lowest act that anyone could ever do to a person. And they call themselves people of God ? What a joke ! The God I know would never tolerate the actions that most of these religious freaks do.
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wobble
My family still talk about generalities,and occasional news of Dubs I knew,they are pleasnt and friendly when I visit them,but they never contact me unless it is really necessary,I am not DF or DA,just a fader,the "Elephant in the room" is very evident.
My sister,who lives in another country,long time Pioneer,wrote to me to tell me what things convince her it is the truth, I replied that none of her reasons stand up to scrutiny and don't convince me. On a recent visit she made no mention of my reply,now if she is so convinced it is Da Troof why not defend it?
My Nephew (Elder,WT conductor etc.)wrote to say I had "left the love I had at first" (Rev chap.2) I have composed a reply which I need to edit so I don't get DF'd so I havn't sent it yet. I can imagine that his witch of a wife is saying all sorts about us so I will reply to him to shut her up!
Love,
Wobble
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flipper
OUTLAW- Good thread. I got out 6 years ago. Just stopped cold turkey due to injustices. My 80 yr.old witness parents were supportive- they understood why I was pissed at the elders. Still accept me. But my adult witness daughters 22 and 20 shun me altogether ( even though I'm just inactive, not DFed ) . I feel they are not only influenced by the WT cult- but are influenced by my fanatic JW ex-wife ( divorced in 1998 ) who has consistently reminded them I was a rebel because I disagreed with the elders. I'm viewed as Satan , or his younger brother , either or.
As for my older JW siblings - my older brother, long time elder tolerates me because of my parents view. Another sister talks with me occasionally, and another less fanatic sister is respectful still- actually tells me she loves me- what a concept. As for my witness nieces and nephews it's a mixed bag - the real self righteous ones don't have much to do with me - but I'm close to nieces and nephews who are considered " weaker " in the witness cult. They get along great with me ! And fortunately my dear son 24, also inactive and a fader like me is my best friend outside of my wife Mrs. Flipper. So - Hey - it's definitely a mixed bag depending on which relatives they are. Hopefully some will exit the cult as well in time ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper
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Tuesday
My mother is the only one in my family that is a JW. She stays in contact with me frequently because my older sister lives in California. So I have the only grandchild within driving distance of her. She occasionally gives me news of people in the congregation, but I got way more dirt from those who left after me. The only real discussion we had is when I first left I said I'd rather die happy that live miserable. We're going to have to have a talk sooner or later regarding all things JW related, I'm one of those people who hate talking about their feelings and bottle up everything. So it's something I'm avoiding. Though with my daughter getting older I'm going to have to have the talk sooner than later, my mother keeps buying my child holiday things and giving it to her days afterwards and I think that's going to confuse her too much.
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undercover
I'm not DFd or DAd, just faded away...and I did a pretty darn good job if I do say so myself.
I have been able to keep most of my family relationships intact even though I've completely left the JW stuff behind. Oh, they whisper about me behind my back and consider me a lost soul but they continue to hope I'll come back some day.
It does cause a strain from time to time when JW subjects come up. I either say too much and cause a disagreement to turn not so pleasant or I'll clam up, knowing I'm wasting my breath. When I remain quiet, it upsets them as well. Either way, any JW subject that comes up causes an uneasy situation.
I've even been able to remain on friendly terms with most JWs that I knew or was friends with before. Most of them don't know my true thoughts and think they can "reach" me by being nice and including me in certain association. I know that some mean well and I don't burn bridges with them, but there are a few that I have no use for and I have made that clear.
Mainly my animosity is towards the leadership of this cult. I was a victim of their cult and most of my family are still victims. I'd love to be able to free them but until they realize they're being duped, they can't be reached.
Being a JW is like being a regular person in the Matrix. They don't know the real truth but they can be used by the machines to help defend the Matrix from the Neo's and the Morpheus's of the free world. So while we work to free them, we have to stay on guard against them, knowing that if too much is suspected of us as apostates they could turn on us and turn those of us not officially DAd in to the agent Smith's of the Matrix - the elders.
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HappyDad
The only so-called JW family I have are two brothers-in-law (my late wife's brothers). Since I left they no longer have any contact with me. The only way I know anything about their families is through my daughter (also an exJW) who is still loved and treated royally by her "JW for the sake of family" cousins.
HappyDad
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snowbird
My zealous little JW daughter semi-shuns me when she's PMSing.
Otherwise, she treats me pretty decently.
Great thread, Outlaw.
LOL.
Sylvia
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zombie dub
some lovely familes on here.
brothers, aren't we so glad our families are in Jehovah's true organisation, whose identifying mark is love?
*applause*