Am I being too sensitive? (page 2)

blondie

I just say "your welcome" as if they said thank you. I fairly good at getting kids to talk, too much sometimes.

FlyingHighNow

Setting up boundaries and expectations is a good thing. I figure kids need to learn manners somewhere, if not at home, then how about somewhere else?

OUTLAW

Josie..Let the girls know what you expect of them..Some kids just don`t know any better,especially at that age.....................................OUTLAW

So I go to pick up my 8yo, I have my daughter and my youngest son riding along. I see my oldest walking down the street and I pick him up cuz hubby is home in bed and the house is locked up (oldest doesn't have a set of keys). When I get to my son's school the girls are waiting along side my boy. I stopped, slide open the side door of my van and yet again the girls make a move without saying word one. So I stopped them and say "Do you want a ride girls?" Nodding of heads. I continue "What do you say?" "Please?" says the oldest with a half smirk. "You need to say a whole lot more than that" I say and I let them get in the van. When we got home while everyone was still in the van I said to the girls "Next time if you want a ride, ask me. If you don't say thank you you won't get another ride."

I think we understand each other now...at least on that issue.

Josie

OUTLAW

Josie..They need a mom to instruct them..Good job!...........................................OUTLAW

mrsjones5

I should have added that asking for a ride won't always get you one.

FlyingHighNow

You could be one of only the good adults in their lives, Josie.

mrsjones5

The man of their house isn't their dad but he's a cool guy, he's the father of the two younger boys. He's a hard worker and he's going to school. The mom is nice but she's a bit immature and petty towards her husband, he's told me that he's lost jobs because of her. And she's recently decided she wants to have another baby. wtf, her youngest is not even two yet. geez...

BabaYaga

Jonesie said: I continue "What do you say?" "Please?" says the oldest with a half smirk. "You need to say a whole lot more than that" I say and I let them get in the van. When we got home while everyone was still in the van I said to the girls "Next time if you want a ride, ask me. If you don't say thank you you won't get another ride."

Great goin', Jonesie!!! This is EXACTLY what these girls needed! You have no idea what beneficial impact you might have on them with this tiny and simple incident.

Bravo.

ex-nj-jw

My kids friends were always told by my kids that when they enter the house, the car or their parents presence they were to speak! Never have I had to correct a kids behavior because my kids got their friends in check before we even had to say a word.

I guess they didn't want to be embarrassed Once my son brought over a girl and she was very shy and didn't speak when she came into the house, well she spoke but no one could hear it except him, he told her if you want to come over again you better speak to my moms and pops so they can hear you They are not together any more but she still call me to say hi

Mrs. J - you did the right thing. If you expect a certain behavior from someone you have to let them know. Kids aren't stupid and they try to get away with things especially if their parents allow a particular behavior. My theory is, just because your parents allow it doesn't mean I will. If you don't like it, go home or get a ride with YOUR parent.

nj

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