so i have really decided to lay off religion with my hardcore jw wife...

by oompa 35 Replies latest jw friends

  • iknowall558
    iknowall558

    Hi oompa ----- I'm not being judgemental. I feel I can understand your plight somewhat. Your life has gone from one controlling element to the next. The latter, (the booze), may be the hardest to give up. I was alcohol dependant for a good while. It was my best friend. It took my head out of a place I didn't want it to be, to a place where nothing mattered and everything was fine. I managed to stop, but only because I wanted to. I still have a drink, but nowhere to the level I did before.

    I really hope you can find it in yourself to want to stop. Things will work out.

  • Witness 007
    Witness 007

    Ommps.....I pushed my wife to see the faults of this cult as I thought we would leave together and I needed to vent....huge mistake, lead to her mental breakdown...never seen her so messed up! Scared the crap out of me....we seperated for a bit and got back togther...shes better but it took a good 12 months! She wants to be a Witness and there is no way in hell I will EVER push her to leave again! Yes I drank at times to cope with the huge stress and sleeplessness.....but this just adds to the anxiety and sleeplessness.

  • cattails
    cattails

    Hey Oompa. I'm very sorry to know you're going

    through all of this. But blaming it on the WT and

    then drowning yourself in gin isn't going to do you

    any good. It just reasserts the WT misinformation

    that people who break away end up in bad lives.

    Live long and well. Enjoy life. Be a good friend and

    friends will flock to you. Forget the hypocrisy and the

    stupidity of following this narcisistic organization. You've

    got your eyes open, don't wink them with booze. Pray!

    That's right, until you figure out there's something your

    little poor Oompa frame of mind and body can't fight

    against... And that's big bad alcohol, the Gin isn't your

    friend. Mine used to be Jack, yeah Jack Daniels and his

    buddy Johnny Walker would show up once in a while

    if there was an open bottle in my Dad's liquor cabinet.

    And I missed them for a while... for quite a while... But

    not anymore.

    Get yourself into a 12 step program. They'll help you.

    It will seem like another mind controlling thing for "a

    while" but it will get you to see how you're not alone.

    Do you see a counsellor? Get someone to give you

    some professional advice... Your doctor telling you to

    lay off the Gin doesn't sound professionally helpful

    enough. You need help. Until then it just keeps getting

    worse. You need to want the help Oompa. If you don't

    you'll just make your marriage suffer all the more and

    waste what could be a beautiful life now with your

    pretty wife. Like the Bible says, let her breasts intoxicate

    you instead. Be good to her and don't be a sad drunk!

    You're better than that Oompa, and we all know it.

    With a big ((hug))).


  • rockmehardplace
    rockmehardplace

    oompa, i told you before, you are one of my favs here. hope it gets better real soon with everything. remember, the WT world messed with alot of our heads and some of the people in it didn't help. dont let them mess everything else up as well. i dont always give advice, especially when i am as screwed up as the next person, but stay off the gin. make it work.

    just as a side note, you kill me everytime with you wit and humor.

  • oompa
    oompa

    thanks all.....and btw.....all beer, wine, booze out of the house....if it is here i will drink it....next few days will be interesting....oompa

  • truthlover
    truthlover

    So sorry to hear of your plight.. sometimes in reading your posts I can feel the pain but the alcohol can be an easy way out... can you get sober long enough to figure out what exactly is the problem? And I am not being harsh or judgemental in this question either, my son is really a mess due to high stress levels and nightmares of armageddon, etc... enough of my son's issues... personally the negative talk by the WTBTS never bothered me but I never thought it would affect him as it has - and continues to do..he hasn't turned to chemical means to solve this problem but lives with it every day.. yet every day he talks about it...so it has not and will not leave him ..... (he is out of the truth)you have a wife and family to contend with... can u get to a phsycologist to talk over all your fears and get some straight on advice... whether or not they understand the deep down issues depends on what you want to dicsuss, and at this time, go for it all!

    You have to have some sort of cleansing, unburden your load, if you dont, it will take its toll on you. you have alot of friends on the board and do talk of your problems with them - that is good but you need more.. get to a dr immediately and open up to him/her.... you need to get medical and phsycological help - I cant spell...

    Enjoy your posts tho, dont forget to keep us up to date

    TL

  • 5thGeneration
    5thGeneration

    I'm with ya oompa.

    Hugs out from 5th

    (In an NFL football kind of way)

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    Hey oompa,

    After going to a detox hospitol a few days, the days after beign out, When my daughter was detoxing, the doc said to drink gatorade. Even just cutting back on drinking the gatorade should help, certainly can't hurt.

    I went through a spell of not being able to sleep after years of relying on something to sleep.

    When I went off them, my system and schedule was really messed up.

    And actually the pharmacists helped me.........he said my system would eventually work its self out, my body would eventually sleep.

    Fortunately at the time I was unemployed and I slept when I could until I got on a regular schedule. Sleeping nights, up during the day. Maybe you can apply

    that with what you are going through. I was on pills for ten years , started after my divorce and being DF.

  • shamus100
    shamus100

    thanks all.....and btw.....all beer, wine, booze out of the house....if it is here i will drink it....next few days will be interesting....oompa

    No, no, no, no, no.

    Help is what you need. You don't need to throw everything out until you get it.

    You will never beat your addiction with message-board trash-can psychology from ex-jehovahs witnesses. People that encourage you, and people that go out and actively drink with you you need to give them the heave-ho, my friend.

    I have a feeling that you will have more support from here if you do by one at least.

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    I agree with shamus, and I feel regretful sometimes giving advice.

    Only you can decide if you are going to really quit, be committed to it and go through the life changes to not get drunk to drown out "solve" your problems.

    You will probably "morph" into a whole new/different person, get to the core of who you really are and that is scarey. I think you have to be willing to submit to the change.

    Getting professional help would be a good thing to get while going through detox, and the initial rehab.

    I suggested the gatorade as you are already there without booze.

    Be brave, be couragious, be committed.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bbaRyDLMvA

    purps

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