...... then the only further advice is the following recomendations
Bottles.... Adiri when not breastfeeding, a bit pricey but transitions well without causing nipple confusion and less chance for air bubbles. It was the only bottle my kids could latch when hubby wanted to do some feeding. Since your wife has a higher disposition for depression I would suggest a having your child both breastfeed half the time and use a formula should she need to return to medication. Encourage your wife to breastfeed as it releases feel good chemicals along with an enhanced bonding process. Breastfeeding is not an automatic so be prepared to discuss ahead of time with you doctor, lactation consultant, doula or midwife about having a 'nipple shield' that is place on the nipple and has a bottle like tip to reach deeper into the baby's mouth for latching. For many women it will take a week or two using the device (starting the latch device then removing mid-feeding to bare-breast) before the baby learns to latch-on by him/herself......Yes babies make breasts a non-sexual topic !!!!
Breastpumps.... WhisperWear (I cannot explain how much better they are then anything else!...... they are slipped into your bra and you are free to go anywhere, I even went to the store and no one could tell I was pumping !!!!)
Baby Bath..... Spa Baby Tub (I wish I had this when mine were infants!....Everyone in my family who has one raves about them)
Baby Carrier..... OTHBH (Over the Should Baby Holder) or similar. They last until the child is 3-ish. I still get plenty of mileage out of the one I bought 10 years ago (used both kids) when I am caring for a little one. I have never met a child of carrying age who didn't love it..... and it is a total back saver too! Babies and small children thrive on human contact and do better when 'held' more then not.
Toilet training..... There was once a world without pampers! Toilet training starts way before a child's body is able to control itself too. Whether you just place them (3 months)on the toilet and flush to get them used to the sound or do 'ec' eliminaiton communication. We did part-time EC since I was a stay-at-home mom but we were in 'training pants' much quicker and by the time they reached their personal readiness (18months-30 months average) all was done without a moment of frustration.
Airplane travel/ stroller/carseat..... we found the Sit-n-Stoll by Lilly Gold to be the best. (and dare I say it...... it is meeting/Assembly/DC perfect too) The 5 in1 last from newborn to 40lbs. They are durable and we still use our original (bought a decade ago) for when I am watching JW or family kiddos.
There of course are ton's of books about child development. We did a 'lesser' version (as in I didn't do it 'gung-ho' but still included daily excercises) of Glenn Doman's "Gentle Revolution" coupled with American sign-language. I was exposed to Doman's program by my stepmom who used their program for brain-injured kids in her occupational therapy practice .My children communicated, walked, talked, read, wrote, and a whole bunch of things ahead of their peers as a result of using his repetition techniques.....
When you start giving baby solids, make it yourself. Baby food is the easiest to prepare! You cut down on the preservatives too compared to store bought pre-packaged stuff.
Okay now here on some links to the things I mentioned..... (australian when I can find a link)
adiri---- http://www.adiri.com.au/
nipple shields--- http://www.medelabreastfeedingus.com/products/breastfeeding-devices
pump--- Check with The Australian Breastfeeding Assoc. http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/default.htm (or ebay!)
bath--- http://www.spababytubs.com/
carrier--- http://www.babyholder.com/
Airplane stroller/ carseat---- not in Aussieland but sold in NZ http://www.thepod.co.nz/outlet.html , here is the main company too http://www.lillygold.com/sns.html
toilet--- for the EC thing http://www.diaperfreebaby.org/australia.htm?&MMN_position=33:33, for the toilets they tend to favor http://www.diaperfreebaby.org/pottylinks.htm?&MMN_position=119:94
Child development program (again I used it more as a template) http://www.gentlerevolution.com/ (but I would check your local library too)
The above is usually what I give as baby shower gifts (that and diapers towers!)
I wish yall all the best in creating a healthy family, post pictures when he/she arrives! ((sorry for yall's previous loss, we have been there too))