How do you know when someone LOVES you?

The Berean

I suppose the English word "love" has many meanings according to individual needs and experience. The questions are for me: if love is unilateral or an interactive relationship? Is unrequited love none-the-less rewarding? . Can one be "in love" while the object of their affection remains neutral or disinterested? Do we love because it makes us feel good about ourselves regardless of the feelings of others?

Psychotic Parrot

They let you put your pinky in their perky

sacolton

It's more realistic to subsitute the word love for tolerance ... until they can't tolerate you no more.

The Scotsman

Well for me and Mrs Scotsman - We were walking along the sea front of Helensburgh, West Scotland - we had not being going out for long. We sat on a bench - it was a cold, gray day - both of us rapt up in coats, scarfs etc. It was really cold with a stiff sea breeze. Mrs Scotsman was rubbing her hands together to get them warm. So, I plucked up the courage and took her hand - this was the first time we held hands and it was like - electricity - I knew it right away. And so did she. I can't explain it any other way - we just knew this was the start of something special. We celebrated this occasion with a fish supper - it was brilliant. Yes - I am an old romantic........

Narkissos

I have long held the irrational and certainly unprovable conviction that intersubjective feelings (from "love" to "hate" with all kind of nuances and paradoxical combinations) are always shared and reciprocal. But we ("I" and "the other") can be very confused about them and mistake one for another.

Incidentally, I found out not long ago that psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan used to say approximately the same thing.

snowbird

Scotsman, that was B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L.

I felt like that about my first boyfriend, Sam.

I remember how he once helped my mother bring some packages into our house. I was in the kitchen cooking, and we looked at and gave each other that very special smile.

39 years later, I still treasure the memory.

Sylvia

Twitch

if love is unilateral or an interactive relationship?

I'd say interactive and always changing

Is unrequited love none-the-less rewarding?

I wouldn't say rewarding, one sided fantasies can really be draining

Can one be "in love" while the object of their affection remains neutral or disinterested?

Yes

Do we love because it makes us feel good about ourselves regardless of the feelings of others?

Yes

palmtree67

I realized I was truly in love with this man when I was told I could never speak to or see him again, and it felt like I was going to die.

I realized I couldn't imagine him NOT being in my life.

Also, when I'm folding his laundry, I can smell his smell on his shirts and it makes my heart jump. Every time.

Hope4Others

I think when someone loves you they show it, even in small ways...they are your best friend. Everyone has their days

but for the most part talking is important, laughing and doing things together, being respectful and caring.

If I was in a relationship that I knew he did not love me, I could not see the point wasting my life any further. Some

people stay in the house for financial reasons yet they live their own life. It works for some but unless you have other friends

and interests I think it might be a little hard. Its a hard call....

I think unrecirpcated love would be hard, it stabs you in the heart everyday. I think its what each individual is prepared to live with and

what they want in return.

h4o

The Berean

It's exciting for me to read the variety of international answers!!!

How do you know when someone LOVES you?

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