Why don't you just take it like a man? (page 17)

purplesofa

You know, I was not born in, so from studying as an adult, I pretty much understood the rules.

When I was DF, it was the hardest thing to do, be shunned by, at that time, 6 million people.

I was sorry and believed it was the truth the whole time, nine years DF.

I came back, and this time I walked away. I don't believe it's the truth anymore. I am happy to know that.

I don't want to go back, but while I was in, I grew to love some of the people dearly. And I still do.

I no doubt knew the rules, that when walking away, the shunning would be there.

In my mind I take it like a man, in my heart it's a very hurt child.

I don't get a chance at all in my journey though life, to have the people that have been there, to come along.

To share anymore happiness, smiles, growth, remember whens?

There is utterly no way to fully take it like a man.

purps

edited: When I was DF and believed it was still the truth, I knew I had the choice to go back.

I would/could eventually see those people again.

Leaving this time, I know I will never go back to the religion to be with them. It's a very hard

pill to swallow.

There is no way one can prepare themselves for this kind of loss ahead of time.

purplesofa

Giving support is one thing, enabling a victim mentality is another thing.

agree

lola28

“Lola comes on to an XJW SITE, to tell people to get over being an XJW. I mean seriously. Going fishing with dynamite????”

That is not what I did, what you are holding onto are posts that I made several months ago, maybe even a year ago in reference to a poster who blamed all his woes on the fact that he has raised a JW. I’m going to once more explain what my point was on this thread and the other and if you are too dense to get it that’s too darn bad.

My question was why anyone would want to be recognized by a group that they loathe. We are talking not about a person that was DF’ed but about a person that disassociated because they could no longer support this religion. If your dislike is so great why would you be so needy and desperate for their attention and respect?

And while I’m at it, let me say this, how dare anyone demand that they be respected and not afford the same respect to others that they demand be shown towards them. You can’t have it both ways, you can’t tell a whole group of people to go straight to hell and then expect them to smile at you at the grocery store. How dare you disregard the feelings of other people in such blatant way? Can you imagine how up in arms people would be if Jeff had come on here and posted that JW’s keep visiting him at home? Everyone would be outraged that the witnesses would be so pushy and so invasive of his personal space. Can you imagine what a painful and uncomfortable situation a JW is put in when someone that they are not allowed to talk to comes up to them and tries to force them into acknowledging them? Do their feelings not matter? Should they not be afforded the same respect we want and demand? Should we not how them compassion because they are as mislead as we once were?

Beskbeks, I asked Jeff what was a sincere question and he addressed my question with nothing but respect. He might not have agreed with me but he did give me some insight into where he was coming from without resorting to personal attacks. I don’t know what your problem is and frankly I don’t care, but lady if you think I’ll sit around and let you bully me you have another thing coming. If you want to discredit what I’m saying by taking the time to look thru all my posts and dragging things out that I wrote a year or more ago, go to it but don’t expect me to sit quietly by while you attack me, got it?

Lola

mrsjones5

LMFAO, that's better

Black Sheep

you can’t tell a whole group of people to go straight to hell and then expect them to smile at you at the grocery store. How dare you disregard the feelings of other people in such blatant way?

Isn't that what you did with your "take it like a man" remark, that you offended me with?

Everyone would be outraged that the witnesses would be so pushy and so invasive of his personal space. Can you imagine what a painful and uncomfortable situation a JW is put in when someone that they are not allowed to talk to comes up to them and tries to force them into acknowledging them? Do their feelings not matter? Should they not be afforded the same respect we want and demand? Should we not how them compassion because they are as mislead as we once were?

That is exactly what the JWs (my family) do to me, so don't tell me to " take it like a man ". That is an offensive suggestion to me.

mrsjones5

I'm still trying to figure out what "take it like a man" actually means. Does it mean that said man is being a pussy or a wimp? Is said man's manhood being questioned? I think said man's wife would be a better judge of whether her husband has a set of balls or not.

IMHO, saying "take it like a man" was not constructive and it was used in this setting to inflame.

Josie

lola28

Excuse me? First off I was not addressing you, second of all maybe I should have thought about the way I phrased my statement but my point is the same. If you have such contempt for the witnesses as a whole why in the name of god would you want their respect?

Why don't you just take it like a man?

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