I have a conundrum....armchair psychologist needed! (page 2)

Heaven

Stephen Covey advocates 'the third alternative', a third solution. As there are no details, I can't offer you one. Put your thinking caps on and look at it from a different angle. Maybe you could ask a professional their opinion.

snowbird

snowbird: There won't be a next time. If I go against my better judgment and do it his way, the deed is done forever!

No, no.

I mean the next time y'all are faced with a similar situation.

Sylvia

JeffT

1) If it's not a marriage problem now, it will be if you don't handle it right.

2) See a professional anyway, they can help resolve a problem.

3) If is not a big issue one way or another, flip a coin. Your odds of getting a good result are better than if you wrote a letter to the watchtower.

CrimsonBleu

I'd sleep on it.....gauge the answer to you decision by how you feel in that soft spot right below your heart...you know, that place where you feel a twinge or heaviness when something isn't quite right, and a lightness and content feeling when something is on track....Meditate on this, let go. You'll know soon enough. Just drop it and go about your day and evening, waking in the morning to feel inside the right thing to do.

rebel8

Withhold sex until he sees things your way.

megs

Which decision will you regret more?

MegaDude

Oh, in line with the specifics of your question, I would do one or the other.

journey-on

Thanks for your input, everybody.

CrimsonBleu, I especially like your approach. My intuition tells me I'm right about this, but putting my foot down about it is not my style. That, I guess, is part of my conundrum.

flipper

JOURNEY ON- It all depends on what it is you are describing as a " life changing choice. " Obviously it's serious to you , but is it to your husband ? Is what you are going through serious enough it would affect your marriage if you and he STAYED in disagreement ? Something you have to ask yourself, only you can answer. Nobody agrees on everything - even in the BEST of marriages. But as you say it is a " life changing choice " then I certainly would not make a hasty decision - whatever it is. As one poster said, " Sleep on it ". Good advice. And I would say further do extensive research on whatever this dillemma is , get advice from professional therapists if possible, counselors, or psychiatrists. They are trained to deal with an abundance of crazy situations. I wish you the best. All I can offer without knowing details

Farkel

Bless him/her and send him/her on his/her way.

Don't sell yourself out for someone else's benefit.

Farkel

I have a conundrum....armchair psychologist needed!

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