Pedophiles Among Us - (H20 post)

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  • waiting
    waiting

    Posted by silentlambs <mailto: [email protected]> [silentlambs] on December 29, 2000 at 18:32:18 {kOZ7JvonLUr.Eq9dlGNYKXdsQHCKmU}:

    i resigned as an elder tonite. my reason is stated in the following letter to the wtbs. if you can add to this story please let me know so as to force the wt to change their current policy of not protecting children.

    12-31-00
    Watchtower
    25 Columbia Heights
    Brooklyn, NY 11201

    Dear Brothers,
    I am writing to resign as an elder and Presiding Overseer effective the date of this letter. I bear no ill will or malice toward anyone in the congregation or the Body of Elders. In my twenty-plus years of special service I have enjoyed many privileges, of which there have been many fond memories. So, it is with sadness I must make the following statement: I simply cannot agree with an organizational policy that as an elder I am required to enforce. This policy, in my opinion, has harmed thousands, is leaving many unprotected, and provides refuge to outright criminals.

    I am referring to Watchtower policy to keep information about pedophiles confidential. Pedophiles are protected by a code of silence and in many cases remain, Ministerial Servants, Elders, Pioneers, Circuit, District Overseers, members of the Bethel Family, etc., while their victims suffer in silence or face sanctions. This policy is unethical and immoral in my opinion.

    As an elder, I am instructed (1994 Elder School) if it is one person’s word against another and not two witnesses to the wrong, no action would be taken and no authorities would be notified. The victim? Cautioned to keep silent or face discipline within the congregation that could go as far as being disfellowshipped for slander.

    This policy was again stated to the public in The Watchtower 1995, 11/1 pages 28-29 in the Article, ”Comfort for Those With a Stricken Spirit”, under the heading, “What Can Elders Do?” it plainly states:
    “If the accusation is denied, the elders should explain to the accuser that nothing more can be done in a judicial way. And the congregation will continue to view the one accused as an innocent person. The Bible says that there must be two or three witnesses before judicial action can be taken. (2Cor.13:1; 1 Tim. 5:19) Even if more than one person “remembers” abuse by the individual, the nature of these recalls is just too uncertain to base judicial decisions on them without other supporting evidence. This does not mean that such “memories” are viewed as false (or that they are viewed as true). But Bible principles must be followed in establishing a matter judicially.”

    Does this offer comfort to those with a stricken spirit?
    How often are there witnesses with “supporting evidence” to an act of child molestation?

    If two different persons recall abuse by one pedophile, how could he be viewed as “an innocent” man?

    How hard would it be for a person with the disposition to molest children to deny the act when accused?

    The 3-14-97 Letter to Bodies of Elders, page 2, paragraph 5, states:

    “It may be possible that some who were guilty of child molestation were or are now serving as elders, ministerial servants, or regular or special pioneers. Others may have been guilty of child molestation before they were baptized. The bodies of elders should not query individuals. However, the body of elders should discuss this matter and give the Society a report on anyone who is currently serving or who formerly served in a society-appointed position in your congregation who is known to have been guilty of child molestation in the past.” Paragraph 6 continues at the end: “this information is not to be made available to those not involved.”

    The only way a person within the organization can be guilty of child molestation is by confession, conviction by a court of law, or by the mouth of two witnesses who were there for the same event. For the individual who meets this criteria, the above information states the “body of elders should not query individuals” and “this information is not to be made available to those not involved.” For those who do not meet the above criteria, as in the case of a victim who accuses a person of molesting them, the code of silence is even more strictly enforced. What about potential victims, parents of children who do not know of these accusations? They are left in the dark without any knowledge that their children could be exposed to an accused sex offender on a regular basis.

    These directives make the Watchtower organization a pedophile paradise, where children can be freely molested, as long as there is not substantial evidence or two witnesses to the same event, pedophiles are protected by Watchtower policy which is enforced by the Body of Elders.

    How often are there witnesses to an act of child molestation? How can there be evidence of molestation, when 90% of the time the crime is reported weeks or sometimes years later? How many pedophiles will tell the truth, knowing if they do they could go to jail?

    Does the fact that the average pedophile will molest seventy children in his lifetime and is never convicted of a crime mean we should allow them anonymity within our organization?

    Due to this organizational policy, we have become saturated with pedophiles holding positions from top to bottom within our organization, in my opinion. In my forty-plus years in the organization, I have yet to find one congregation that did not have serious problems with children being molested.

    The most incriminating fact lay with it not even being a matter of record, as in many cases when it is one word against another, not one word is recorded within the congregation file. Watchtower policy gives no direction in this regard. When elders call or write the Service Department for home office direction on how to handle matters involving child molestation, they are instructed that they will have to make the decision locally as to whether it should be taken care of judicially. The Service Department in effect lets local elders make the decision and as a result, the locals will take the responsibility if anything goes wrong. Thus protecting the Watchtower legally. How often will local elders in effect, “take care of a fellow accused elder,” protecting him from a judicial meeting using technicalities as an excuse? But when it comes to the victims, they are discredited, humiliated, and told to be silent. There is a silence of the lambs, the little ones, who look to You and Bodies of Elders for protection, but instead are crushed and ostracized by an organizational policy when they needed help the most. The Watchtower is protected; the pedophile is protected, too bad for the silent lamb.

    How bad is it? With this policy you will allow one out of three “witness children” to be molested in their lifetime, in my opinion. I can no longer serve as an elder in an arrangement that promotes unethical and immoral behavior toward children. I refuse to support a pedophile refuge mentality that is promoted among Body of Elders around the world. Criminals should be ousted, identified, and punished to protect the innocent and give closure to the victim.
    Each day that passes, more children are being molested, and victims suffer as abused lambs with a shepherd who seems not to care. For myself, I feel I can trust no one within the Watchtower organization with my children. If my children were to accuse a pedophile of molestation, all he would have to do is deny it and as a father I would be silenced with the threat of disfellowshiping if I were to try to say something (slander of a perceived innocent man) in a way of warning to protect others who may be in harms way. I state for the third time, this is wrong it is unethical and immoral to not protect children.

    It is my sincere hope that this letter will result in an adjustment to completely overhaul Watchtower policy to address this horrific stance of protecting pedophiles and exposing children to danger.

    **********************************************************************
    Posted by silentlambs <mailto: [email protected]> [silentlambs] on December 29, 2000 at 19:20:36 {kOZ7JvonLUr.Eq9dlGNYKXdsQHCKmU}:

    12-31-00
    this is my letter to newspapers to get the word on a public forum, the more that is known the sooner something will be done. wt cannot stand on this one, they are wrong, they know they are wrong, they will change this policy.

    Dear Sir,

    I am writing to address an issue that transcends religious belief and exposes a reality that affects thousands of children everyday. I have served as a Christian minister for over twenty years. However, I can no longer continue to serve the members of my church as I do not agree with a church policy that as a church elder I am required to enforce. This policy, in my opinion, has harmed thousands, is leaving many unprotected, and provides refuge to outright criminals.

    I am referring to a church policy to keep information about members who are pedophiles confidential. These pedophiles are protected by a church mandated “code of silence” where even members of the immediate family cannot be informed, and, in many cases, accused pedophiles remain in positions of responsibility within the church while their victims suffer in silence or face church sanctions. I believe this policy is unethical, immoral, and, in many states, illegal.

    This policy was publicly stated in The Watchtower, a publication of my religion, Jehovah’s Witnesses. The Watchtower, which is published by the tens of millions and distributed around the world in over 139 languages, stated in the November 1, 1995 issue, pages 28-29, regarding how church officials should handle molestation:

    “If the accusation is denied, the elders should explain to the accuser that nothing more can be done in a judicial way. And the congregation will continue to view the one accused as an innocent person. The Bible says that there must be two or three witnesses before judicial action can be taken. (2Cor.13:1, 1 Tim. 5:19) Even if more than one person “remembers” abuse by the individual, the nature of these recalls is just too uncertain to base judicial decisions on them without other supporting evidence. This does not mean that such “memories” are viewed as false (or that they are viewed as true). But Bible principles must be followed in establishing a matter judicially.”

    Accordingly, the only way an accused person within the Watchtower organization can be deemed guilty by church leaders of child molestation is by his/her private confession, or by the mouth of two witnesses who saw the individual crime. In the event the pedophile denies the charge he/she is protected by church authorities. The church then demands the victim remain silent or face shunning for slander of an innocent man. I feel I can trust no one within the Watchtower organization with my children. As it stands now, if my child were to accuse a Jehovah’s Witness of molestation, all he/she would have to do is deny it, and as a father I would be silenced with the threat of shunning if I were to try to warn or protect others who might be in harms way.

    Let me ask you, how often are there any witnesses to an act of child molestation? How can there be “supporting evidence” of molestation when 90% of the time the crime is reported weeks or sometimes years later? How many pedophiles will tell the truth knowing if they do they could go to jail? Does the fact that the average pedophile will molest seventy children in his lifetime and is never convicted of a crime mean we should allow them anonymity within the church? What about church members who know nothing of these accusations? They are left in the dark without any knowledge that their children may possibly be in the company of an accused sex offender on a regular basis. In addition, if the molester admits to molestation, repents in private to church elders, the victim or family of the victim is not encouraged to report the molestation to the police, and, if not reported, then church authorities demand the victim remain silent. Hence the pedophile can repeat the offense because no one is aware of his past.

    How bad is it? In my opinion, due to present church policy, my religion has become saturated with pedophiles holding positions from top to bottom. In my forty-plus years as a member, I have yet to find one church among Jehovah’s Witnesses that does not have problems with child molestation.

    Henceforth, I will no longer serve as a church elder in an arrangement that promotes such unethical and immoral behavior toward children. I refuse to support a pedophile refuge mentality that is protected among our churches around the world. I believe, rather than the church involving itself in determining whether an accused person is innocent or guilty, the first step the church should take is to notify the local authorities who will investigate whether the accusation has merit. Then if found guilty in a court of law, the pedophile will be publicly identified and punished. This protects the innocent and could help give closure to the victim. Until that day happens, the lambs have been silenced, the victimized little ones, who look to their ministers for protection, but instead are crushed and ostracized by an organizational policy when they need help the most.

    It is my sincere hope that this letter will result in making persons aware of what could also be happening in their own church as well. There has to be a grass roots movement that will force those who have responsibility to completely overhaul their church policy, if it is similar to the policy of Jehovah’s Witnesses, and address this horrific stance of protecting pedophiles and exposing children to danger.

    The only statistic I question is the "1 out of 3 children will be molested." I thought it was 1 out of 4. New statistics may be out that I'm not aware of, however.

    In any case, more and more persons are speaking out of the enforced silence about the WTBTS's official policy on the non-handling of rapists and rape victims.

    waiting

    Edited by - waiting on 30 December 2000 19:34:35

  • mommy
    mommy

    thanx waiting I am crying now:(
    The only thing that really SUCKS!!!
    Is the governing body will get only that they have one less p.o. and elder:)
    me very sad now
    mommy

  • OrangeVale Bob
    OrangeVale Bob

    Very timely waiting,
    Last week I was intending to rejoin my local congregation. The posts I read at freemind under sexual abuse changed my mind. I really didn't know what to do but intended to discuss this and a few other gems with an elder that I am comfortable with. After reading this I know I am going to have to do a lot more research. I suspect my list of questions has only begun.
    How I wish I could close my eyes, click my heals and say "I wish this was Jehovah's Organization, I wish this was Jehovah's Organization...." Maybe I'm not wearing the right shoes.

  • Pathofthorns
    Pathofthorns

    That's a painful spot to be in Bob. I think lots of us have been there and its devestating. But it will get better once you go with what you know to be true or at least leave behind what you know not to be.

    And that is what it all comes down to, is that we all wanted to do what was right and what was true, and one day you wake up and realize it wasn't exactly as you had believed it to be. In fact it was no where near what you thought it to be at all. The thing that you thought was helping you, was what was holding you back.

    I hope the elder you can talk to is a good friend and an open minded person. Otherwise sometimes you will find yourself coming under close scrutiny and find that instead of you asking them questions, they will be asking you.

    Path

  • Seven
    Seven

    Waiting, I thought the US Dept. of Justice released that 1 out of 3 cases were reported. Info about uniform crime stats can be found at the FBI homepage http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/faqs.htm Thanks for posting this story.

    Seven

  • Pathofthorns
    Pathofthorns

    ... and ((Hugs)) to you Mommy (gee that feels weird saying that)

    I'm not sure exactly what you were trying to say there, but i feel bad too when elders step down on matters such as this. Not because I don't think they should do this, but every one that steps down is one more elder that leaves who was a good one and had principles and was in it for the right reasons.

    Sadly that just leaves the ones that are ignorant and blind, or mean or who were serving for the wrong reasons. This is a real problem, a lack of some good men. And yet the system is pushing them out.

    Path

  • STRUGGLE
    STRUGGLE

    Sad story indeed. Bob mention he wished he could click his heels and say "I wish this was Jehovah's organization". I agree, because so much is going on that we do not have a clue about. But I know that Jehovah will without a doubt clean out his organization. Sometimes we get impatient when things don't happen when we feel they should. (1975). It is scary, life is so hard, so many choices, which one! What to do?

    Bob I encourage you to try to start going back to the meetings, remember you are serving Jehovah who is perfect, not man who is not.

    Don't let Satan use this tactic to keep you away. First and foremost pray to your heavnly father. Talk to him.

  • Pathofthorns
    Pathofthorns

    Is this what you are trying to say Struggle? [url] http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=1882&site=3[/url]

  • waiting
    waiting

    Hey Seven

    Thanks for the current information. There is so much at stake when talking about these things, anything false is held up as an accusation against the whole story.

    I was posting national averages that state 1 out of 4/5 children will be molested by men and women. The FBI is saying that 1 out of 3 molestions/rape are reported.

    So, the national average could conceivably be a lot higher. Closer to the elder's figures. That's even more disturbing.

    Hey Struggle

    Don't let Satan use this tactic to keep you away

    This is imperfect men and women - who have been baptized and vowed to do the will of Jehovah, some in high authority postions - having sex with children. I am cleaning up my language for the sake of readers. This is not "having sex" as the average adult has sex with another average adult. It is, for the most part, very physically painful, full of fear, guilt, disgust, and shame. It is brothers and sisters breaking the law, gross sinning.

    Satan is not doing this. People are doing this. To blame it on Satan is to take responsibility from people. Adults are screwing children. Period.

    Satan is not showing the WTBTS how to use governmental laws to keep victims quiet, to shelter pedophiles so they can go on with their perversity that stems from people, not Satan. The WTBTS is doing this all by themselves. Show me in the Bible - Jehovah's Word - where it says to cover over the sins of a gross sinner. To keep victims quiet for "the good of the congregation." The Bible is full of inconsistencies, but I don't think you'll find that to cover over gross sin comes from Jehovah.

    If you're saying that Satan is causing the WTBTS to conceal known sex perverts, then how could they be God's Only Channel? The WTBTS would be only one of Satan's Channels. Perhaps the WTBTS is neither Satan's nor Jehovah's Channel. Perhaps it is an organization of imperfect men and women, some of who screw kids.

    And that should stop. If it stumbles someone? Good - sex perversion should cause an honest hearted person to stop and think about being part of an organization who shelters pedophiles and makes the victim quiet and shamed. This is a generalization because sometimes a victim is believed, the pedophile publicly disfellowshipped and put in jail. Myself, I think it's a rare happening - I've never heard of it.

    waiting

  • STRUGGLE
    STRUGGLE

    No, a group of imperfect men cannot make up a perfect org. It is not possible. We are talking about someone who created everything. What I was saying Pathothorns is, even though it is hard don't focus so much on the men, their power is very limited compare to Jehovah.

    As I like to say he is the final judge. He is our lifegiver not men.
    Bear in mind he does use these men from time to time. Hope I did'nt confuse you more.

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