Well, after I moved out on my own, I slowly drifted away but was never disfellowshipped or disassociated. The elders show up at my house once a year to deliver an invitation to the memorial although I have not attended in seven years. I think it is out of guilt for the poor way they handled an earlier situation. I was so angry when it happened that I actually demanded that they give me my publisher card . A request that they promptly refused. The presiding overseer actually showed up on my doorstep one evening and apologized a couple of years later. I was not rude but I told him that all of the apologies in the world could not fix what had been done to destroy my family and that I didn't feel he understood what the true meaning of loving and forgiving meant. They know that I associate w/my disassociated and disfellowshipped relatives and friends but leave me alone for several reasons. I think they know that they excercised poor judgement and are hoping I will come back.Secondly, my mom has been in the congregation for twenty years and she had a talk with them about how disappointed she was with the way they handled themselves. I told the p.o. that night that I will never go back and that he will never have any kind of control or say so over my life again and that someday he will have to answer for everything he has done. I haven't seen him since.