Dating a JW :-(

by MIADanny 33 Replies latest jw friends

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  AwSnap

  I'll read this whole thread tomorrow, but I just came across your comment:

  FYI: I recently was invited to my first party with some members of her hall. I will tell you that the younger JW crowd I met are much less conservative than I thought they would be...lol They a even had drinking game at their party.

  All I can say is: PLEASE REALIZE THAT THEY ARE JUST TRYING TO MAKE YOU THINK THEY ARE COOL AND ACCEPTING. ITS THEIR WAY OF GETTING YOU IN.

  No joke. They will act "wild" with fellow jw's or potential jw's (especially)....but if you become one of them & act the way they did in front of you in front of them in front of 'worldly' people.... you will be excommunicated. Sound confusing? Yep, it sure is.

  I have some very important people still involved in the jw's. my advice is *not* to give up yet. Read some books such as Combatting Cult Mind Control. If nothing else, just read that book....and do not tell her you are doing so. YET.
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  AwSnap

  ....as an illustration: my pioneer (somebody who does the 'door-to-door' work for a bazillion hours every month) sibling came over to my home one night. We had some wine. My sibling had more than usual. I thought we had a wonderful time....weeks later, I found out that I was apparently the one to blame for that since my sibling would *never* drink too much with other 'faithful friends'..... Ummmm

  So basically, I was blamed because I'm one of Satan's peeps. Basically, you are too at this point. In the future, if they get in trouble for the party you attended, they will blame you & your unbaptized honey.
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  Chalam

  Welcome MIADanny!

  Plenty of good advice here :)

  Make sure you stick around and see the full extent of what you might be getting into.

  Blessings,

  Stephen
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  garyneal

  Danny:

  All I can tell you is if I knew what I know now back when I met my JW girlfriend (now my wife of nearly 7 years) I would've never dated her, certainly with the intent of marraige. If she began talking marraige, I would've politely told her that I cannot due to the fact that she is a JW. I like my birthday parties, holidays, and I don't like the idea that my children may die all because they were denied a blood transfusion.

  I hope and pray that my wife will one day leave this religion but right now all I can do is try to keep it together as much as possible for my daughter. If she never leaves, I hope that she will at least respect the headship thing and not try to impose too much of her religion on my children.

  One day at a time is all I can do now. Try to make the day go by as best as possible for all involved.

  My advice to you, don't marry this woman. You'll be glad you didn't.