How many DF'ed on this board have actually had...

by tenyearsafter 29 Replies latest jw experiences

  • tenyearsafter
    tenyearsafter

    How many disfellowshipped ones on this board have actually had follow up elder visits "encouraging" them to return to the meetings?

    I have been DF'ed for 15 years now, and I have never had one visit (I am not saying that is a bad thing!) from an elder encouraging me to return to the Organization. I moved to another county after my exit, but it was certainly no secret where I was. My ex, a very active JW, knew my address as did my teenage kids. I even attended several Memorials in my new location and made no secret of my status. Come to think of it, no one ever really took the time to find out about me when I did go to the Memorial. My brother is an elder in a neighboring town, but as far as I know, he hasn't encouraged any follow up calls either. I find it interesting that such emphasis is placed on DF'ing being a loving provision used to "bring the erring one back to their senses", yet I have never heard a peep in 15 years. Is this the norm, or I am the exception?

    Again, I am not complaining!...just curious as to other's experiences.

  • Billzfan23
    Billzfan23

    Gone 3 years on the dot, no follow up contact or elders visits.

  • zzaphod
    zzaphod

    I left in 1988, I spoke to one Elder in 1996 who happened to catch me in, and I told him in no uncertain terms that I would never be interested in going back ever.

    Since then I haven`t said anything to them at all, and to be fair, they have not bothered me since.

    All the best

    Paul Uk

  • palmtree67
    palmtree67

    DF'ed for a year....no visits, no magazines left in my mailbox, no door to door calls, no Memorial invite.

  • blondie
    blondie

    Usually they only call on those whose publisher cards are in their congregation's files.

  • aquagirl
    aquagirl

    No.altho they have told folks not to go to any of my band's events,when I played 'round here.Fraidy cats.

  • Michelle365
    Michelle365

    I've only been df'd for 4 months but no memorial invite for any of the 3 years I've been "gone". The only Elder contact I've had since I left is the hounding and trying to get proof of my evil. No encouragment type visits at all.

  • babygirl30
    babygirl30

    I had visits by elders until I STOPPED going to mtgs....haven't heard from one since.

  • poopsiecakes
    poopsiecakes

    Nothing in over 4 years - and I haven't changed my name or anything!

  • cofty
    cofty

    DF'd 13 years, no visits no contact of any kind. Still living at same address.

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