Well..a lot of this problem seems to be the fact that God is invisible and doesn't seem to talk to anyone directly like he used to. LOL
Hey, why don't we rate visits from the Big Guy anymore? He apparently used to come and talk to people all the time, send them an occasional stone tablet or two, make big miracles happen and wow the crowds.
Why doesn't modern man rate the same from God? Are we so bad? Did God lose interest? Did he think that after we killed his Son that we're just too uncivil for direct contact?
But, it sure would solve a lot of problems about the whole matter. Wars could have been prevented, internet wank, loads of books about it, and just people in general being confused and aggravated by the whole thing.
I'm thinking, it can't matter that much if you really have no real way of knowing. The importance of believing or not believing in something higher can't be just proving it or not.
It probably has more to do with what we need than anything. Some people need to believe, some don't. I guess it's hard for the non believers to see why someone would need to believe, and vice versa.
I don't think it's a right or wrong thing, because like what color you prefer, it seems to be left entirely up to you and is totally subjective.
I think were it gets off track and scary is when someone, as you mention, decides that those who don't agree with their version get really upset about it and make all sorts of assumptions that the other side of the coin must be evil or something wrong with them because they have different needs and interpret what they observe and feel differently.
You have to leave that element out of it to have any kind of intelligent discussion about the matter. Or any significant ideas, really. There's almost always some validity to the other person's reasons for a religious or political or personal decision.
For instance, I'm not a Republican or a Democrat, either, but I can often see why people who embrace those ideas do so. It's often intensely personal and that combined with their observations and information lead them to a certain conclusion.
The only problem is when you villainize people who you don't happen to agree with. All these issues are not the kinds of things that are entirely provable, like a math equation.
They're all rather grayish areas of life that are highly subject to personal interpretation.
You'll never get total agreement on such matters, but you can agree not to antagonize and villainize others over it.