lol @ babygirl. I hear you on the black-on-black crime. Perhaps that's why my mother and I don't speak. It's safer that way. lol
Some stay FOR the control?
by SearchingForMe 22 Replies latest jw friends
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My mother actually admitted to me about 20 years ago, ( in a brief, shining moment of clarity and intellectual honesty) that one of the things that attracted her most to the JW's was the fact that they would help her "control" her children. She explained that while she thought that they were doctrinally correct about many things, my brother and I were growing older and (naturally) away from her. This was something she found psychologically unacceptable being the poster child for Narcissistic Personality Disorder that she is.
Much easier to manipulate children when it's God saying "you must" as opposed to mom saying "you must". Funny how once we were both safely married with children that she became inactive and "fell away". Now she behaves like none of it every really happened. A childhood destined to be difficult made perfectly miserable by the WTS.
Sadly the Witnesses are a magnet for people like my mom.
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Simply not healthy--everything you do is what someone else tells you to do. They don't have a good reason--just that they told you.
To compare, a worldly group I have joined (to slap the Washtowel and Jehovah in the face) have exactly the right level of control for me: No one shall initiate the use of force, threats of force, or fraud against another person or their property. As long as I don't do that on a habitual basis, I need not worry about consequences from the group. That leaves just about everything as "conscience matter" issues. Just weigh the full consequences; if the benefits outweigh the cost, by all means do it. This includes things like drinking, smoking, using drugs, celebrating the holidays, going to another church, joining the military to defend one's country or support troops doing the same, using the Internet (and particularly apostate forums), listening to music (including rap, heavy metal, and holiday music), displaying a flag in my home, gambling, and even fornication--a conscience matter, and no hounding to avoid it!
Sure beats having to answer to a group of hounders, most of whom aren't even versed well in the Bible (let alone in common sense), to see if it is acceptable to do something before doing it.