Do you think you are forever damaged by the Watchtower?? (page 3)

nugget

No there have been a lot of wasted years but I refuse to let some old men in Brooklyn have that amount of power over me. I will learn from the experience and use it to empower my future efforts.

peaches

yes,,,,in some ways.....the scars are deep....

ldrnomo

What a wonderful, well written thread.

I agree. Its good to have people to talk to about this, and they understand where your coming from.

I feel that the damage I am suffering right now will soon end. Its not serious damage anyway and I could continue to live with it but I feel someday soon my son will be able to fully escape. That is the only tie I have with the bORG. It's like they strung out one of their little nerves and attached it to me. I'm free but I still have that tie that I can't break only they (the bORG) or my son can break that. I think my son would have a hard time doing that because he is loyal to his wife and we are happy for that. However, it will make it almost imposable with those thicker ties to the bORG, her family. But, it will happen, somehow, it will.

Quandry

I've been out since 1998 so I've had time to learn how to be normal. I've had time to get over the pain and hurt of shunning by those who claimed to love me. I've had time to get over the anger and realize that my parents only did what they thought best for me with, what they knew at the time.

I imagine that if you've been out since 1998 but are writing about it today, then it is still on your mind. I would also go so far as to say that you could never completely get over the pain of shunning, or you wouldn't be writing about that, either. But I would also say that this, too, makes you normal. No one can be treated this way, shrug their shoulders, and just go on. Whether you use the word damage or not, I am sure that like many here, there is a hole, even a small one, still in your heart.

I am so glad that you've formulated some goals. You've already met one, you got your GED. Congratulations. It certainly does prove that you can do anything you set your mind to.

no more kool aid

I am so happy for you Noni. You are right what is the point to wallow in this sad existence forever. I went back to school as an adult and it was such a life changing experience. I am sure your words will inspire many people here. However, I still think I will be forever dented if not damaged by WBTS as a middle aged person that has lost family and life long friends and had really built my whole life around this religion, it's going to leave a mark. It's not totally disfiguring, it doesn't define me, but it will always be there. Great post! NMKA

cyberjesus

Yes we will have that mark and the reminder of who we were, and the fact that who we are is the result of that. But it is what it is. Some of us left earlier than others but we all left. We are free to decide to an extent. We will always be limited to some extent if we still have family in. But it is what it is.

Noni: Your post gives me courage. You have influenced me today, thank you.

Girlie

I believe that there will be some residual affects from it, but I also believe in the saying, "What does not kill you, only makes you stronger."

darkuncle29

I think my family joined the JW because of underlying dysfunction already present. So, Damaged by JW, maybe a little, but definetly altered as a result of JW experience. I think in some ways I am better off, having gone through a cult experience makes one a little more perceptive of mind control dynamics and the post experience recovery and exploring do even more.

minimus

Weak minded and mentally challenged people may be forever damaged by ANYTHING if they allow it.

Do you think you are forever damaged by the Watchtower??

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