Drew Sagan in a recent post (he recently graduated college) said this, something that I agree with and frankly, think about often
To those of you who feel that you need to "help others" in the Watchtower I give you this word of caution. Be careful, because that may simply be an excuse you are using to remain stuck in the past. That's how it was for me. I was stuck, and because I was stuck, I made the ex-jw stuff everything. It defined me. It was a life changing experience that "everybody needs to know."
That really resonates with me today. Of course, with my mom's recent passing, and her last bit of advice to me ("Be happy") it gives me pause to evaluate. Which is never a bad thing to do.
You might think that a former Gilead grad and missionary, a former elder, would have a ton to say. But as I look at what I have written here, I think that I have said it all.
After over 3 years, I am no longer in the know. I am not current. (not surprising, since JW's change everything about every 3 years anyway) I have written about all I care about.
I do feel a sense of responsibility toward those that leave, a little. And I wonder just how much my words will continue to help?
Because in the end, when one leaves, or one is thinking of leaving JW's, it is something that they must do of their own accord. No amount of screaming, reasoning, or anything will cause a person to do what they aren't ready to do.
One of my favorite recent threads on here is Lady Lee's thread on the 4 stages of JWN. The last stage are for those that have moved on for the most part but come on here for social reasons, more or less.
After a while, talk about JW's is so repetitive that in the end, you have to move on to other topics. If you are still angry, that will come through.
My point is, (with great thanks to Drew Sagan) when do we move on. Are we (am I) stuck in the past?
