How Many 18-35 year old JW's have Exited the Cult in Your Family ?

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  • not a captive
    not a captive

    Just skip to the pink stripe unless you want the details.

    I was baptized when pregnant with my sixth child and had one more afterward:

    Husband never in. Of our children :

    1. Quit studying in 11th grade. She graduated from college and is doing very well.

    2. Baptised at 14 and had doubts spring up by the time she graduated. On her way to Alaska, via my sister in Washington, she went to a Tacoma, Wa convention. She called to tell me she didn't believe it any more. I never quit talking to her. She told me a year ago that she finally is able to pray again. Ahe hates, HATES, this religion. She was treated badly when she voiced her doubts to her favorite elder. She bounced around and eventually went to college and graduated. She is okay but I worry about her still.

    3. My son studied for a year and quit.

    4. This son never studied.

    5. This son studied on and off finally got baptised at 21 and got DF'd for general hell-raising and drinking. Very up-front. Had some friends who were good to him and an elder who was truly like a father. No on talked to him after that. It really messed with him. The whole thing. In fact when I was going through my own year of decision he kind of was critical of some of my conclusions---like he really believed it was the "Truth" to him.

    6.This son went to meetings with me for a while when my husband would allow it. But that was stopped when he was still little.

    7. This girl stopped studying in the 10th grade and I would not force her to go to meetings. She was never baptised. She has a full scholarship to college.

    Two were all the way in and now are all the way out. My youngest got way in but refused to be corraled.There was direct pressure from the elders to get a Bible study with someone other than myself. But she told them she didn't need more knowledge--she needed a relationship with God and knowledge wouldn't give it to her. She was strong.

    Even though I hate that I exposed my kids to this destructive cult I did at least recognize how bizarre I is to cut them off if they were "out"-especially when the natural course of life has its own ways of limiting contact when someone is doing drugs, drinking a lot, stripping or just doing a lot of crazy living. You probably aren't seeing them much unless you are liking that too--which might be the bigger issue for a Christian. So I talked to mine.

    My family had plenty of issues aside from the wounds caused by me being a Witness. But I still hate what it did to us.

  • jamiebowers
    jamiebowers

    Of my 11 cousins, only 3 still attend meetings, but I've heard that 2 of them are inactive. Of the 20 second cousins in that age group who were raised as jws, 3 attend meetings. I don't know if they're active.

  • elder-schmelder
    elder-schmelder

    My dad is a elder, he told me that all of the "kids" my age 33 have left. He said it is because they did not have a personal study.

    Ha Ha Ha Ha

    elder-schmelder

  • lesabre
    lesabre

    3... me and my 2 younger sibblings. none of our family is still in.

  • crownboy
    crownboy

    Me and my three siblings are all out. Me and my younger sibling are "fully out" (i.e.: know "the truth about the truth"), while my 2 older siblings profess to believe in some form or another, but do not attend anything but the memorial. The eldest allows my parents to take her kids to meeting when they stay with them on sleepovers, though she herself never takes them (she does however have them get whatever kids bible story book is in now. I know it's not the yellow My Book of Bible Stories that I used).

    Of my cousins in that age range (about 20), only 3 are in. I would classify most as "extreme inactive" or "apathetic", as opposed to all out like myself and my sister.

  • noni1974
    noni1974

    In order of birth.

    Cousin #1 male in but faded for years then went back

    Cousin #2 male in?? Not 100% sure if he still goes. He went back after his father died.

    Cousin #3 male in but faded for years then went back.

    Brother in, know it all elder want to be.

    Cousin #4 male in

    Me out left at 23. I Am now 35. Cousin #4 and I are the same age. All the ones above us are over 35 and almost in their 40's now.

    Cousin #5 female in

    Younger sister in. Pioneer and depressed for years.

    Cousin #6 male in

    Cousin #7 male. Last I heard he was disfellowshipped and moved to California. Not sure if he's in or out really. He either doesn't keep in contact with the family or I'm not updated about him because I'm out also.

    Cousin #8 male in?? Last I heard he was divorced and going through some sever mental issues due to a fall and head injury he had years ago. He was abusive to his wife. He had drinking issues. Moved back into parents house after separation with ex wife. Didn't go to meeting last I heard. Used the depression excuse. Father stepped down as an elder to support his son when he needed him after his marriage fell apart.

    Cousin #9 female in.

    Cousin #10 female out. Never got baptized. I believe she is gay also, so that may be a reason. I don't know if she still hangs around JW's or not. Has never openly come out to the family, but lives with a older woman and her daughter and I believe one of them is her girl friend. Not sure which.

    Cousin #11 out. Disfellowshipped. Not sure if went back or not yet. He left at 18 I believe. Not sure though of his age when he got disfellowshipped.

    I know I'm out and at the moment that's all I'm sure about. I don't have any contact with the cousins who might be out so I can't know for sure if they went back since I last heard about them or not.

  • sammielee24
    sammielee24

    Hi Flipper...great post...sent you a pm. sammiesiwfe.

  • Mythbuster
    Mythbuster

    The JW I talk to has 2 children in that age range, one baptized, one not, neither active.

  • jaguarbass
    jaguarbass

    I left when I was 31, but that was back in 83, before they had computers and cell phones.

    Back when they had jobs in this country.

  • dgp
    dgp

    Marked.

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