misery: do you comprehend WHY JW women feel like they have to either conduct a spiritual show and tell session, OR throw themselves at the man's libido? Some women in the Org play one side, some play the other. The endgame is to not end up a lonely nobody.
Women in the WTS learn that, for the most part, she cannot have a spiritual or doctrinal discussion with a man, because if she happens to have a better understanding of the concept, she will be accused of "teaching," and "usurping authority." If she does not already have a mate with status, or is living in her father's home (and the father has status,) she will generally be shown very little leniency for being intelligent and interesting. Being an intelligent, single, adult woman is generally not an asset in the Organization. One might get a little status if she is an ATTRACTIVE, intelligent, adult PIONEER woman in the organization, but all it takes to topple her is:
- not making her time,
- being seen in a car, alone, with a single any man,
- making a comment that exposes a man's ignorance on any topic,
- turning down the advances of any man on the servant body
- turning down the advances of the "marriageable" son of an elder,
- not kowtowing to the P.O.'s (or whoever the "Power Elder" happens to be) wife,
- not entertaining the C.O. and spouse,
- entertaining the C.O. and spouse if someone else wanted to do it,
- commenting too little at the meetings
- commenting too much at the meetings
- commenting too intelligently at the meetings
- dressing too fashionably
- dressing too frumpily
- being interested in a man who another woman with more "status" already has "dibs" on
- having the wrong elder "notice" her
- driving a 2-door car
- going to school
- not participating enough on KH toilet cleaning
- having had any "youthful indiscretions"
- NOT having had any "youthful indiscretions" (don't kid yourself, the ones who are "unsullied" are not desirable, they are "ice queens"- untouchable. Literally.
- etc, etc, etc
There are so many ways a woman in the Organization can become invisible, and so few ways she can assure her continued social connections, friends, invites to gatherings, having a full cargroup, finding a spouse, having respect...
It is the policy-making in the Organization that creates this unfortunate situation, not some intrinsic "whorishness"of the women within. IF the men in the WTS follow the WT policies to the letter, this environment is created. The fault of the men is not recognizing it and refusing to comply. However, if one does compassionately refuse to adopt the misogynist training imposed upon him by the WTS, he runs the risk of falling into the same prison of invisibility and insignificance that we women faced every day.
I find it disturbing, however, how strenuously many men hold onto these views when they leave the Organization, refusing to recognize that these beliefs ALSO were part of their indoctrination, and as much as they were wrong about Armageddon and the "New Earth," they may also be egregiously misled in their views of women.
P.S. to Daring: "Guess what, it's mostly the sisters..." Um... are you really that ignorant on how sex works? Poor innocent misled brothers getting duped by whores. *pouts*
