Cantleave, I do think you offer great advice. We stopped all at once 5/08. If I would have tried to fade they would have really bothered us, then you get all the dumb questions at every meeting, "are you OK?", "we miss you". We have gotten a few Saturday/ Sunday 1130-1230 visits, really very predictable. You are right they are too lazy and occupied with other problems (like the whole thing falling apart) to worry too much about us.
Life is indeed too short to spend one beautiful Saturday or Sunday doing something you no longer believe in. Our families are not thrilled and don't associate with us anymore so I guess my worth to them was only based on being in the organization anyway. We have several friends that are attempting to leave now too and it seems to be the best method, at least for us. NMKA